Family members complaining about the cost
Posted 04 November 2008 - 12:35 AM
Posted 04 November 2008 - 12:40 AM
Posted 04 November 2008 - 01:01 AM
Do you--it is your day.
Posted 04 November 2008 - 02:28 AM
Posted 04 November 2008 - 10:39 AM
This has happend to a majority of us that have already gotten married. If you just browse the "just venting" sub forum, you'll probably find 2985735 similar posts!
The bottom line is this, you have done the responsible thing in being up front with your guests regarding your plans and the costs. You have also given them ample time to plan. As hard as it is, you need to move on.
Those who want to attend your wedding will find a way to do so. Some people just like to complain. If it's not the cost, it's the resort/country, the dates, the whatever.
My DH's brother kind of whined about the cost, but in the end he was there because it was the right thing to do. Only DH's immediate family came and lots of mine. All those who did attend, kept talking about how wonderful it was.
The most important thing to do is paln what you and your FI want. This is a special time for the two of you, not anyone else.
Posted 04 November 2008 - 02:59 PM
| Originally Posted by KLC77 |
They have until July 2009! Plenty of time to save money for your wedding. I'd tell them to get over it and book their damn trip. lol
Posted 04 November 2008 - 03:23 PM
My family initially had a hard time with it as well. My sister isn't coming at all; and believe me that caused a ton of drama (she thought that I was trying to exclude her and make her feel bad bc she couldn't afford to go supposedly). My Fmil was and still is not thrilled; and same as you, this is my 2nd wedding and his 1st.
When you are giving ppl this much notice; there is no reason why they can't save up for it. Put away some $$ every month; in a year they should have more than enough.
But, if they still insist that they cannot go; let them know that it is okay. That you wish they could be there, but understand that they cant. Promise them lots of pictures when you get back so you can share your day with them. If you aren't doing an AHR; then perhaps just invite over FI brother to look at pics with you two and have a toast.
Personally, I am having my sister come to see me and she will stand up for me for our legal marraige; this way, she can feel like she has a special place in our ceremony even though she can't be at our wedding.
Good luck and remember; this is both of your wedding! It is your vision and a celebration of your love. Cast the drama and guilt aside... enjoy your planning and your commitment to eachother, your way.
After all, when all this wedding stuff is said and done; its the two of you who are married and are starting a beautiful life together. Start it the way you want and the people that love you will be happy for you.
Posted 04 November 2008 - 03:28 PM
And your FI's bro (and his wife) should realize that it's the only brother he has so should not be so insensitive & selfish & suck it up!! If people just thought of all the money they "wasted" throughout the year I'm sure it would more than pay for their trip!! (ie, eating out, going to movies, drinking & partying) It kind of pisses me off!!!
Well...that's my rant for the day! LOL
Posted 04 November 2008 - 04:12 PM
I've had most of my family say its too expensive,my reply ok thats a shame it would have been nice for you to be there and thats it.
FI's aunt keeps complaining about cost and I snapped the other day and said well what difference does it make you aren't invited anyway lmao that stopped that pretty sharpish lmao
Just dig your heels in
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