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Do I have to put my parents name on the invites?

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#1 hayley

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    Posted 19 October 2008 - 11:09 PM

    So my Dad is pretty much paying for the wedding, but he says if it's proper not to put parents names on the invites, he would rather not because both of us have divorced parents and that puts our step parents in a weird position. I agree, but I don't want to not put their names if it is not proper. I have looked at wedding etiquette websites and they don't really address this specific issue. What do you guys think?

    #2 DLyteful

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      Posted 19 October 2008 - 11:16 PM

      I didnt put our parents names on the invites. My parents are divorced, mom remarried and stuff. I didnt want to deal with all that. So I just put our names (however we were mainly paying for it). But I did read a bunch of wording that said the brides name & grooms name with "together with our parents/family..." That pretty much covers everyone.

      #3 cdc0427

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        Posted 19 October 2008 - 11:17 PM

        I agree with your dad, it will be awkward for your steps. I think you have two choices: ut your parents names with their spouses or just not put their name at all.

        #4 Maura


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        Posted 19 October 2008 - 11:17 PM

        i have divorced parents and was uncomfortable putting all the parents names.

        instead what we did was use wording "together with their parents" and then our names so that it still mentioned parents but didnt get into specifics.

        #5 rodent


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          Posted 19 October 2008 - 11:20 PM

          I did "together with their parents" too.

          #6 anaderoux

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            Posted 19 October 2008 - 11:28 PM

            I agree that "together with their parents" sounds nice

            #7 KLC77

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              Posted 20 October 2008 - 11:05 AM

              ditto what everyone else said, our invites read Together with their parents, Kelly Lastname and Ron Lastname invite you to share in their joy...

              Our Awesome Wedding Pics: http://www.delsolpho...ings/kelly&ron/

              #8 BachataBride

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                Posted 20 October 2008 - 11:13 AM

                I did not put our parents names either - but we are paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves. I think in your case, because your dad is paying for it then you should include "together with their parents".
                What I don't like (sorry if any of you have it!) is when it reads "mr. & mrs. x invite you to the wedding of their daughter jane x to joe y son of mr & mrs y"...even if the x's are paying for the wedding!! (sorry...just a pet peeve of mine!) Our friends invites read like that...wouldn't it make the grooms family feel shitty??

                #9 Cattie

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                  Posted 20 October 2008 - 11:24 AM

                  My mother is paying for 90% of everything. On our invites I put

                  Together with there parents
                  Kathy XXX & Pawel XXX

                  This way my FMIL is happy, my mother personally doesn't care if her name was there, but I'm sure my FMIL would have a fit!

                  #10 ACDCDCAC

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                  Posted 20 October 2008 - 11:43 AM

                  we just put our names. being that we are over 30, completely independent from our parents, and with all the step-parent things, plus doug was married before and already did the invites with all the parents names back in the day, we just decided to go with our own names. it was OUR wedding, afterall :)

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