Why is the thought of changing my last name freaking me out?
Posted 15 October 2008 - 08:04 AM
Perhaps it's because I've been so independent my entire life, especially in the latter years. Raising my daughter on my own, paying for my own bills since I was 14, and putting myself through a $30,000/year education sans my parents help. I know part of the reasoning is also my profession because it's how people know me.
I know the resolution is to hyphenate, which I mentioned to FI and he gave me a funny look, I can only imagine what he'll think if I express my true anxiety.
I'm proud of who I am and what I've accomplished, and somehow changing my last name feels like I'm stripping away a part of my identity?? Am I crazy?
Posted 15 October 2008 - 08:08 AM
I think we become attached to our name since we have it for so long, lol. :-)
Posted 15 October 2008 - 08:21 AM
Posted 15 October 2008 - 08:25 AM
Posted 15 October 2008 - 08:29 AM
but, i was also really excited to start the name changing process. i get excited when i see my new name in print.
I dropped my last name completely, but i keep it on my email so people recognize who the emails are coming from.
Posted 15 October 2008 - 08:42 AM
that said, its totally a mild identity crisis and i'm thinking of making my maiden name my middle name...would totally sound funny if i ever gave my full name to someone then, but at least it would still be a part of me! have you thought of that as an option?
Posted 15 October 2008 - 09:10 AM
Posted 15 October 2008 - 09:11 AM
FI isn't bothered because quiet honestly it wouldn't have made any diff if he was it wasn't changing for all the tea in china lol
Posted 15 October 2008 - 09:14 AM
Especially in my profession, when you have built a reputation and client base, etc, based on you last name, this is pretty common. But it is a very personal decision!
Posted 15 October 2008 - 09:17 AM
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