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Today is my FFIL viewing, tomorrow funeral

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#1 samanthag

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    Posted 02 September 2008 - 12:24 PM

    Hi guys!

    This has been a crazy week for my FI and I!
    Earlier this year his father was diagnosed with ALS. They gave him 2 years max to live.
    Last week on Monday my FI had surgery! Everything was well. He was fully recovered by Thursday.
    Thursday night we got a call from his family saying that his Dad was in Intensive Care. Saturday morning FFIL died.

    This has been extremely hard on my FI but especially because while his father was ill he would not visit him often. He said it was too hard. Plus growing up his Dad divorced his mom when he was in 3rd grade (after his Dad finished medical school) and FI and his mom struggled while his father remarried (stepmom is a doctor) and payed $200/month child support. FI mom never took his Dad to court. She just thought if he wanted to pay $200 then that would be that & she worked 2-3 jobs to support her and her son.

    His Dad had no movement in his entire body. He couldn't talk. They fed him through a feeding tube. Yet his mind was fully aware of what was going on.
    Tonight is the viewing and tomorrow morning is the funeral.
    FI is taking this very hard. Lots of regrets for not spending time with his Dad when he had the chance. Regrets for not talking to his Dad & "fixing" things.

    To anyone who may be in a similar situation with a loved one or a friend, nows the time to rekindle your relationship. One day (s)he may not be here.
    I don't want to preach to you guys, but seriously "forgiveness" makes a world of difference!

    #2 trance_angelx0x

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      Posted 02 September 2008 - 12:31 PM

      So sorry to hear about your FFIL. I think there isn't enough forgiveness in this world...

      #3 ErinB


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        Posted 02 September 2008 - 12:37 PM

        I'm so sorry to hear that. My thoughts will be with your and your FI as he goes through this difficult time.

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        #4 SoontobeMsKniss

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          Posted 02 September 2008 - 12:38 PM

          I'm so sorry to hear about this! I hope things go well and your FI takes care of himself during this hard time!

          #5 Banana11

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            Posted 02 September 2008 - 12:41 PM

            Sorry for the situation you are going through. I agree, live life without regrets.

            #6 syl1115

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              Posted 02 September 2008 - 01:12 PM

              You are so right. You must make sure live for tomorrow and not for yesterday. Life is to short. I am so sorry for you and your FI's loss. He was very young. Just be there for your FI, he will need you.

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              #7 Yari

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                Posted 02 September 2008 - 01:14 PM

                I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

                #8 Kristy!


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                  Posted 02 September 2008 - 01:20 PM

                  I'm so sorry to hear this. Just be there for your FI. Hugs to you.

                  #9 DanielleNDerek

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                    Posted 02 September 2008 - 03:38 PM

                    I'm sorry about your ffil. Your poor fi.
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                    #10 Davematthews16

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                      Posted 02 September 2008 - 03:48 PM

                      I am extremely sorry for you and your FI When my great grandpa died last yea (whom I was EXTREMELY close with, we each put something in the casket that we wanted him to be able to "take with him." I wrote him a letter and put it in his suit pocket. Letter's can really help you get closure after a death. He could write down everything he wanted to say in Life, but never had the chance. Again, I am so very sorry for you loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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