Should I be hurt/offended?
Posted 10 July 2008 - 02:30 PM
It does sound like the bigger issue is that the husband is running the show. My guess is that he didn't want to go to Jamaica anyway, and she thought she could convince him. Then , he probably didn't want to go to Florida either, but she was able to convince him to do at least that for her, because it would be easier and probably cheaper or at least similar cost.
I know it bites, and I think it's totally natural to be offended in this case. But, I think if this is a friendship you'd like to salvage a heart-to-heart where you lay out your feelings and ask her to be honest is definitely in order.
Posted 10 July 2008 - 02:39 PM
| Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek |
You just got an email from the friend that didn't go to your wedding?
I'm over it now, it's just frustrating. I tend to always look at what I would do in a similar situation. I tend to bend over backwards for my friends anyways, so it has been hard for me all along that she wasn't coming because if the situation were reversed, I would have been there for her in a second, and I am no where close to being as financially stable as they are.
It also kinda makes me wonder if her husband has a problem with me or my husband. We all openly dislike our friend's FI (with the FL DW) but have told her we love and support her and her decisions.
I think he is just the type that if it's not his idea, then forget it.
Posted 10 July 2008 - 02:44 PM
Posted 10 July 2008 - 02:50 PM
| Originally Posted by LC_Rachel |
I'm not going to lie- I would be really hurt too. However, it's not EXACTLY the same scenario. I'm sure it's a bit easier to get to FL from Kentucky rather than Jamaica. There could be underlying issues there. Maybe she's afraid to leave the country with young kids. I could see that being a fear.
Also, just because you heard it through the grapevine that she's going, she might not be. You know how we all are- we think people are going, only to find out they aren't. She may have just not told the other couple it's a definite NO yet and gave them one of those "Sure I'll be there" answers we all get when they really don't have solid intentions of going.
Long story short- talk to her. It's your good friend.
Posted 10 July 2008 - 04:19 PM
It sounds like she needs to get a pair of balls and start running her own life and not her hubby do it for her. Think you are going to have to bite the bullet on this one because you won't get a straight answer
Posted 10 July 2008 - 04:22 PM
Posted 11 July 2008 - 12:31 AM
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