Why I'm Mad at My MOH

[MoonPalacePookie]

I know some of you might not think this is a big deal, and if it wasn't 2 weeks before my wedding, I'd probably laugh it off. But I'm a bit of a nervous wreck right now, so everything bothers me. Yesterday I cried because the guy at the sandwich shop put mayo on my "Please no mayo" sandwich and I really took it personally. My poor FI.

 

Anyway, we have stayed at the hotel where we are getting married about 3 times before and she (my MOH, FI's sister) was with us everytime. We have done most of the activities offered by the hotel. So a few months ago I sent out a "suggested" activities timeline along with our hotel information booklet to all the guests. Right away I get an email from her going "I can't believe you guys are doing the zipline tour, you love the tour." We enjoyed it, but didn't love it and we didn't think people wanted to pay $115 per person for the tour when our hotel offers a bunch of free tours. So we just ignored it and told her guests can do whatever they want. Well she doesn't want to be the only one to go and she hates it when it looks like she wants to do something, so she just manipulates people into making the final decision so if anything goes wrong, its not her fault.

 

She brought it up a few more times and each time like "I can't believe you dont want to do it, i know you lovvvvvvved doing the tour." So yesterday, we are at her parents house for dinner, my parents and all the siblings are there and she goes "I can't believe you guys dont want to do the tour, Ryan and Kiel and West and all the boys want to do it." And she starts going on and on about how all the friends want to do it and we are the ones holding everyone back. Thank God my mom was there and she and I speak Russian and we just went inside and I exploded. She can do whatever the hell she wants, but for her to get the boys (who are all secretly in love with her anyways, so they'll do anything and I bet she didn't tell them about the price since they're all broke) and try to change things. GRRRRR.

 

Even as I write this, it doesn't sound that bad, but she always does this, she always has to be in charge. Everything has to be about her and what she wants. I just hate the thought of her going behind my back and talking to the guests. I dont want to talk to her about it, everytime I confront her about anything, she just turns it around and I'm the bad person. GRRRRRR.

[Hartyt509]

I would suggest the only way to deal with this is to keep blowing off steam in russian lol then go swimming with her and drag her under for a while and say "oh I thought you would enjoy that" lmao

 

Honestly just say do what you like i'm not your keeper and then tell all the others look do what you want i'm not your keeper but its expensive and we don't think its worth it.

 

You need to learn to play her at her own game, give her the bullets and the gun and stand back and watch lmao

[stacey]

Why cant she do the Zip line on a diffrent day? This is your wedding and if you dont want to do the zip line then you shouldnt have to do the zip line. However I see no reason why she cant do it after the wedding. Or if there is a time when nothing is planned.

[Yari]

She sounds so annoying!

 

I would have told her, sorry but since I already did it before I want to try something different. If you want to do it go ahead and go for it.

[Jenn3878]

Wow what a PITA - how old is she?? Tell her do the tour on her time! Sheesh!

[Chiquita]

Yeah, I'm not sure why she just can't go and do the tour another day when there is free time and drag all those boys with her? Heh

[MoonPalacePookie]

Thanks girls, I just wanted to know I'm not overreacting (or at least not terribly so). I did tell her she can do whatever she wants, we'll see how we do when we actually get to Mexico. Thanks for the support.

[Nrvsbride]

I don't understand why she couldn't just ask the boys if they wanted to go on X date. This isn't a big to do. Its her vacation also and if she wanted to do the zipline so badly she should have just gone ahead and set it up for whatever day there weren't activities scheduled. What is the problem? I would have balled her out in Russian. LOL.

[JBinjour]

You are overreacting to the situation, but you NEED to relax. It's not the end of the world. Actually, it's the beginning of everything for you. You will look at this situation and laugh in the future.

If she's your true friend and MOH, tell her to back off. I also suggest not sugarcoating it. It sounds like sugarcoating will not work with her. The honest truth is the only remedy to her madness. It will also make you feel better too.

[Kat81]

You're not overreacting. You are stressed and she is making this about her! She needs to just grow up and go on the damn zipline tour if she wants to. It's not your deal. You picked what you want she can do whatever! And DAMN that guy for putting Mayo on your "no mayo" sandwich!!