Need some assistance: how to tell dad I'm walking alone?
Posted 10 June 2008 - 03:49 PM
I don't want my dad to walk me down the aisle. I get that it's a lovely tradition and for many brides it's a big meaningful thing. And I LOVE my dad! But... it's just not what I want. I've lived on my own for longer than I lived at home, and the notion of having my father hand me off to FI just strikes me as trite and so very not me.
The plan is that I'll walk myself down the stairs from the deck to the beach, FI will meet me at the bottom of the stairs and we'll walk up to the gazebo-thingy together.
So, how do I tell him? Anyone have any ideas that would be tactful and gracious? I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I don't want to give in on this point out of guilt, either.
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Posted 10 June 2008 - 03:52 PM
Say dad you know i'm not traditional and i'm even having a DW so as much as love you to walk me down the aisle I'm not really having an aisle and I'm walking up with FI. I know you won't mind. Give him a kiss and leave it at that lol
If you get into a discussion someone is going to get hurt - so try and keep it very light and "ah by the way" - I'm lucky dad isn't going and wouldn't do it anyway his theory is I'm not giving you away you are always mine lmao OOO try that line 2 lol
Posted 10 June 2008 - 03:52 PM
What if your dad walks with you to the stairs and hands you off to your FI, then you and your FI can walk down the aisle together. That way he is apart of it a little w/o actually being able to give you away. He'll have that few minutes with you before the actual "walk".....just a suggestion..
Posted 10 June 2008 - 03:56 PM
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Posted 10 June 2008 - 04:22 PM
I plan on just taking out the part about "who give this woman blah blah." So my dad will walk me down the aisle and then have a seat. No giving me away.
I originally was going to have my mom walk me. She is the one who raised me. But, my dad worked so hard to get to where he could walk. If on the day of the wedding he isn't feeling up to it, I'll have my mom walk me.
My dad's part in the wedding will be to sing a song after the ceremony. That is more meaningful to me than him giving me away.
I do think the giving away tradition is outdated now that it's not 18 year olds getting married & leaving their fathers house for their husbands. When you are a woman with a career who has been supporting yourself for a while it feels odd for your father to give you to someone.
Also, mike didn't ask my fathers permission to propose to me. He called to let him know, but he asked my mom instead.
I vote for have nibblets walk you down the aisle. I'll loan you his hand knitted leash.
Posted 10 June 2008 - 04:25 PM
I just realized "blanky blank old" doesnt sound good. I just don't know your age but maybe <insert age here> sounds better. Sounds like I was cussing & calling you old
Posted 10 June 2008 - 04:26 PM
Posted 10 June 2008 - 04:50 PM
I agree that it might be best to just mention it in passing, not make a big deal about it. Then get your mom to check about his reaction. If he was hurt, it might be best to talk to him about it and let him do it.
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