The economy is going to ruin my wedding!
Posted 03 June 2008 - 03:18 PM
Several of our close family and friends have experienced pay cuts or have been laid off. Due to their financial situation I kind of fell guilty for even suggesting they attend our wedding. While our wedding is a year away and it gives every one an ample amount of time to save, a lot of our friends and family don't even have the luxury of saving anything. I totally understand if no one can come and wouldn't hold any hard feelings but if no one come I would cut a lot of things out of our wedding.
Im in the begining stages of my planning so I have invested much into the wedding yet but I don't want to fork out all this money for things that wouldn't be relevant if my fiance and I were the only ones there. For example I wouldn't have a reception or a DJ.
Im sure I am not the only one to be facing this issue so if you ladies have any suggestions or would just like to rant with me please write away!
Posted 03 June 2008 - 03:25 PM
This is such an important time for you and your FI, you need to do what is best for you. If this means you elope and have a ceremony with just you two, then go for it. You can always have a reception at home, of any level of formality, to celebrate when you return.
Posted 03 June 2008 - 03:33 PM
Posted 03 June 2008 - 03:35 PM
Posted 03 June 2008 - 03:35 PM
I think in the end you will still have those closest to you attend.
~ Jaime & Martin ~
"Rain or Swine! 2-0-0-9"
We had 24 people attend our wedding in Las Caletas, Mexico on May 24th, 2009!
We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!
Posted 03 June 2008 - 04:26 PM
I found it was helpful to book through a travel agent that will include flight and hotel in one amount. Some places will let you set up payment plans. My FI and I made monthly payments towards our trip as well as many of our guests.
Also, I don't know about Dreams Cancun, but at EDR we do not have to finalize anything until 30 days before the wedding. If this is the case, you can at least put your names on the books and downsize as needed depending on your guestlist.
People will find a way to go. We found out a friend of ours took out a loan to go. I almost started crying when I heard that.
Posted 03 June 2008 - 04:36 PM
Granted those that have lost jobs due to the recession can't exactly be blamed for not committing. I think the best attitude to have when planning a DW is being thankful for those that can make it, and not even think about those that can't. If you dwell on the have nots, you will spend most of your time being unhappy.
As others have said, those that want to go will still make it happen. Even with things getting shitty, we are still planning trips for the next year because we still want to vacation. We will just have to cut a few corners in our budget to make it work.
Posted 03 June 2008 - 05:09 PM
Some people didn't care about the cost. They were so excited about the trip & had no problem affording it. Others had to back out as it got more expensive. We made it really easy for people to say they are not going.
I planned in a way that allowed me to not worry about the numbers. We didn't do a roomblock. We just gave out our TAs info & people booked hotel/ flight packages. As prices got too high, people who hadn't booked are not going. We picked a less expensive AI knowing that flight prices would only get worse. We are bringing back pictures & a video & will share that with them.
We decided right away we wanted a DW regardless of how many people could attend. We will have 23 guests. I couldn't be happier.
I've actually talked a couple people out of going because I knew it just wasn't the right time for them financially. I think as long as you give people an easy out so they can make the right choice for themselves financially you are safe.
we are also not having a bridal party so that no one feels obligated to be there.
Another thing that helps is to make it easy for people to pick their length of stay. Our guests are doing 3 nights, except for 2 couples that are staying 4 nights. Total was about $800 per person. But, last summer it would have been closer to $600.
My wedding is 3 weeks away & I can honestly say it's been pretty much stress free. I had so many doubts & fears about a DW. I am so glad I went ahead with it.
Posted 03 June 2008 - 06:13 PM
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