Friend Drama... Need Advice
Posted 09 April 2008 - 10:09 PM
I am from California. I have three really good guy friends from there. I have stayed really close to them since moving to Texas. When I got to Texas I met one of my bridesmaids. Her and I hit it off and did everything together. I decided to go to Cali to visit and took her with me. She ended up hooking up with one of my really good friends there. We were there two weeks and they dated the whole time. Then we came back to Texas and like two months later he came and visited for two weeks. Anyway, they were together about four months long distance. They started talking about marriage and all kinds of stuff. I tried to stay out of it. Then she moved back to her hometown which is like two hours from me. When she got there she met her now husband. She was still technically with my friend from Cali but fell hard for this other guy and now they are married and have a baby. When my friend from cali found out she was with this other guy he flipped out and threatened the new guy blah blah blah stupid guy stuff.
Fast forward to now. I ALWAYS forget that those four months happened and they ever dated. I never think about it. So, I asked my girlfriend to be my MTOH. Her and her husband are so excited about coming. Without thinking I also invited my guy friend from Cali. It wasn't until I got off the phone with him I though OH CRAP!! My girlfriend is a drama queen when she gets drunk and I am afraid something might happen. What should I do? Should I kinda become hard to get ahold of to my guy friend and blame it on being so busy? Should I let him come in hopes they are grown up and won't be stupid? I asked my girlfriend about it and she said I dont care if he is there as long as he doesnt start anything with dave (her husband) I don't think he would. I am pretty sure he is WAY over it... anyway this is a lot longer than I planned. What do you girls think?
Posted 09 April 2008 - 10:20 PM
Just make sure each knows the other is coming and if they can't deal with it, then they will make the choice not to come.
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Posted 09 April 2008 - 10:28 PM
i would make sure they see eachother a day or 2 before the wedding to get whatever weirdness or beef out of the way
Posted 09 April 2008 - 10:54 PM
I would hope, if it were my friends, that they could put that drama aside for my wedding. But ultimatley, I think you know best. Do you thnk he will start drama with the hubbie? So you think SHE will start drama with ex?
Posted 09 April 2008 - 10:57 PM
If you tell both of them the situation before the wedding, then they need to be adult enough to control themselves out of respect for you, your friendship, and your wedding. If either of them can't, then they need to be adult enough to politely decline the invitation.
Posted 09 April 2008 - 10:59 PM
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Posted 10 April 2008 - 12:08 AM
First of all talk to your guy friend about it. Maybe he should bring a date or something to distract him.
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