Posted 07 November 2009 - 12:21 AM
I'm pissed off at my FMIL. Even more so because I REALLY want to have a good relationship with her.. I love my FI, and I really want to love his mom.. but we're SO different and I just don't trust her.
1. She's sneaky and manipulative.. and overly dramatic.
2. She's extremely superficial.. constantly fixates on how she looks (she's in her 50's.. and does look good.. but give it a freaking break.. you're never going to be 20 again, age gracefully), how skinny she is, and constantly comments on how I look, and how my friends look, and how random little kids look ("what a fat pig").. seriously..
3. When FI and I first got engaged, she told us that she and her husband had decided on a specific amount they would contribute to the wedding.. we are extremely tight right now, as I'm a student and shifts are short at work for him because of the economy.. since that time, she has not made mention of it again, nor has she offered to pay for any part of the wedding.. It's frustrating, because we really don't expect anybody else to pay for our wedding, but to say that you will contribute, and then not follow though.. just sucks.. we are extremely stressed, and strapped, and they have asked my parents what they are giving us (my parents have paid for things for our wedding and also given us a cash amount, but have not told the inlaws that), and then said to them that "well we are planning to go on a lot of vacations this year, so I guess we'll see what's left in the bank account".. I mean, they have every right to spend their hard earned money on themselves.. but to say that.. (when they KNOW how hard things have been for us in the past two years), is just so tacky.
4. her husband constantly makes sexually innapropriate comments to me, my family members, my friends.. granted this is not her fault.. and usually she tells him to tone it down.. but from time to time she contributes, and it makes me sick.