thanks everyone for the kind words of support. my friend is holding up as well as can be expected right now...luckily, she has a large family and group of friends, so she has a lot of support right now to help her get through this hard time.
but this brings me to my dilemma. She and her fiance were booked for our wedding in May. I think it's too soon right now to even bring that up, but the final payments will be due in March. How do I bring the topic up with her? I would totally understand her not wanting to go, and would support her completely in that decision. I just don't even know how to ask. Any suggestions?