I had this same problem! I hated trying dresses on because, first of all, I didnt want any poof underneath because I drown in it. And the sales lady kept saying, you can take it out, and clamping me up in 50 clamps definetly didnt make me feel pretty. Thats when I found Nicole Miller :-)
No poof! Nice slim fitting dresses that feel AMAZING! My mom was also a little dissappointed that I ended up going with such a simple dress, but I dont want to be a DRESS walking down the aisle...Just me ;-)
I, too, am 5'1 103 pds but since Im Dominican all the weight is sittn in my butt and thighs. Stairmaster here I come! hahaha!