Unfortunately, I have found that people don't give you the same consideration with a DW as they do with a traditional one! I sent out 104 invites, set up a way for people to RSVP via my wedsite (to make things easier) and only 8 people RSVP'd! There were 29 people booked by the deadline and yet, I just found out that 5 more people booked last minute this week! We leave in 2 weeks... Sucks, but that's the way it seems to work. I tried EVERYTHING under the sun to get people to give me a definite yes or no answer but most were still on the fence 7 months before the trip. I made my OOT bags for those who were booked by the deadline, and everyone else won't get anything! Harsh, but there was nothing else I could do...no use stressing out over other people's indecisiveness. KWIM? Just know that you are not alone and we are all here for you...vent away girl!!