BachataBride

Never going to live that one down am I!!! Geesh...a girl makes one mistake!!! LOL So how's everything today?? Still stressed to the max??

I am only "friends" with people on facebook who I am actually friends with and contact on a somewhat regular basis. I do not need old bfs or people who I went to high school with sticking their nose in my business!! I say if you have not talked to this person in the last 2 years and will more than likely never talk to them on facebook then do not add them. When facebook first came out all I did was add, add, add. I went through & deleted more than half of the people I was "friends" with. And most of them have since tried adding me again (multiple times!) and I just ignore them!

Quote: Originally Posted by NJ_bride Bachatabride you are absolutely right. (although I like to believe he was left on their door step) Here's to dreaming!!!

Oh wow...it is beautiful in pic...too bad it didn't work out!! Post it on Kijiji/Craigslist/eBay & see what kind of hits you get on it! One question...would you mind putting it on so we can see what it looks like on you?? (sorry...just being nosy!)

Quote: Originally Posted by NJ_bride My confession is that I think FH's family are the worst people in the world and if I never see any of them again I would be thrilled. I've read your post on this...and I agree...they are the worst people in the world!! But think about it this way...if it wasn't for them you would not have your FI. So they did do something right!

Look at you Erin...the "Bumping Queen" today!! I am a Civil Engineering Technologist by trade. I started off as a Draftsperson doing blue-prints for houses/cottages/etc. I have now branched off into the concrete industry where I am now an AutoCAD Technologist. I complete the shop drawings for concrete pipe/manholes/valve chambers/etc. I think I am due another career change so I am going to look into the TA business! I think it's the perfect job for me!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Morgan how is this- they split the rooms 3 ways. then you pay erik's part of the 1/3 since he will be the photographer? Oh...I like that!! Great idea!!! That's good...we have a few options now!!!

Thanks Sara! I was planning on sending an email to all 3 but I wanted to talk to Eric first and lay out the options before I did anything. I should have known everything was going way too smoothly...something had to eff up!!

I was waiting for your thoughts on it Harty!!! Thanks for your honestly as always!! hehehe I completely agree with you - but I don't think that will happen! I'm going to suggest that first...but then bring up the splitting the difference 3 ways option - I think they will go for that.

Quote: Originally Posted by syl1115 My confession is this: My husband had prostate cancer about 4 years ago and due to the radiation treatment, we now have to plan in advance to be intimate. The equipment just doesn't wake up like it used to! Sometimes this is very hard to adjust to. I am so used to just "doing it" whenever the mood strikes and now I have to schedule an appoinpment with him so "johnny" will be ready! I'm sorry to hear about his cancer - I assume all is well now?? Thank you for putting things in perspective. I guess we do not have it too bad when FI wakes us up in the middle of the night - at least we have that option.

Quote: Originally Posted by Michelle ok so i dont want to be the meanie in this thread because i think the idea of splitting the cost equally three ways is fair in a way but i really thing its the totally wrong thing to do in this situation! why should Erik have to pay even one penny more than he originally would in a double room just because the other two want to be selfish he did nothing wrong at all That's true...I'm so confused!!! Why can't people just stay with their plans!!!

Sorry Tanya!! I'm a

OMG Shannon. It is incredible!!! I say yes!!! But of course it's up to you...if you are feeling it, then go for it!!!

I've been meaning to tell you Kayte that I love the new siggy pic!! E-photo??

Quote: Originally Posted by paraisobeachbride2009 You're right I should have mentioned that not all girls are like that, sometimes it's the opposite. I will say that in the past, my FI HAS turned it down once or twice because he was too tired too. 2 - 3 weeks? You got nothing on me sister! lol I can bet that we've probably gone a good 8 weeks without having any several times lol yet he still wants to marry me, crazy boy! lol But yeah, everyone's different, it's just one of those things I suppose. EIGHT WEEKS!!! OMG my friend would DIE!!! I would get way to cranky!!! I get mad & emotional when it's be 2-3 weeks!! I don't realize why we are at each other's throats until I think about how long it's been since we've had sex!!! Then we get some and we're good for another few weeks!!

You could subscribe to the magazine "Fine Cooking" as well! They have so many great tips...and great recipes in there!! You can order the acual magazine or subscribe for it online! Good Luck!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by chickadee024 I can put the vagina mothballs away. OMG I think I'm going to piss my pants!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by paraisobeachbride2009 I hear ya, you're not the only one!! It's not like I don't enjoy it, it's just that I don't need to go out of my way to have it. I'll take it if he's offering but my day isn't ruined if I'm not having it. It makes me feel so bad though! I don't think there's anything wrong with any of us, just that guys are ready for it 24/7 and we're not always in need of it as often. I am very attracted to my FI too, I'm just so exhausted all the damn time that I guess I don't ever feel like it...which is sad!! This is not actually not always the case. A good friend of mine is always looking for it and her FI is always too tired!! He does work long hard hours! But it seriously frustrates her. She can't believe when I say FI and I have gone 2-3 weeks!

I'm sure most of us can relate to you chickadee. You are definitely not alone!! FI and I usually go through spurts - when I'm in the mood he's not, or when he's in the mood I'm not. We just can't click lately!! One thing that may free up your time a little bit (and not just necessarily for nookie!) but think about hiring a cleaning service to do the housework (major stuff anyway). Have them come in every 1-2 weeks, that's what we plan on doing when we get into the new house. I can think of much better things to be doing with my time than scrubbing toilets!! I don't think they are too pricey!

We are planning a backyard BBQ. Basically a big family party!! It will be BYOB, family playing instruments & singing, potluck. VERY Casual!! It will probably start around 4 or 5 in the evening & go until wee hours of the morning!!

Quote: Originally Posted by SunBride well if Eric is going to be your photographer, could you pay the single supplement (i.e. difference between double rate and single rate) for him? It is usualy a few hundred dollars I think. Not that bad if you are getting photography out of the deal. Yeah...I thought about that. And that's what I might do if it comes to that. But FI and I are a little strapped for cash right now with the house & wedding & christmas so close together. And I almost don't want to just on principal of it!!! I don't think it's my responsibility to pick up the pieces of this mess. But I also want my close friend (and photographer!!) to be there!! This is a brand new development (I literally received his email 1.5 hrs ago!) so I haven't even been speaking with him. FI also has a friend who may be able to room with him. It's just bullshit that we even have to deal with this. If Chris is there & Eric is not I'm going to be one pissed off bride!!!

I originally thought that Chris (being the ASSHOLE!) should have to pay Eric the extra money that he would incur. But I also like the idea of all three of them sharing!! Thanks Stacey!! I will suggest that!

OMG...that's the sweetest!!! You're a lucky girl (but not as lucky as he is!!)

OK. I'm going to try & simplify this: People involved: Friends Eric, Chris & Vicki booking triple occupancy Cousin/Friend Angela booking single Vicki sent me an email yesterday saying that she has to cancel because of medical problems - disappointed...but fine - we knew there was a chance she was going to have to cancel when she booked. Bladder issues have been ongoing for ages. Chris & Angela recently hooked up & became some what of a long distance item. Now Chris is moving into Angela's room which leaves Eric shit out of luck! Eric cannot afford to pay for single so now he cannot go. I can't believe Chris is such as asshole!! I am so mad right now!! Eric is my closest friend out of two of them AND he was supposed to be my photographer!! am I supposed to do now?? This bites!! I think I'm going to email Chris and tell him (probably in a nicer way) the way I feel. But then I don't want Angela to be pissed at me either. I'm so mad right now!!

Post pics on here under the For Sale category & see if anyone is interested!! Or maybe bring it to a seamstress & see what they can do with it - maybe one simple alteration could make all the difference!!