I didn't want my hubby to get a lap dance either, and he said he wasn't going to get them... but quite a few drinks later and some of his friends (not my fav ones in the first place) got him dances. I wasn't a happy camper about, but what's done is done. Then I said that's the last he'll ever get, and he doesn't have a choice in the matter for future reference. His regualr friends never got him dances, and they don't get them either because they know their wives/gf would have been po'ed.