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we are both big divers (as in we really enjoy it...not that we get to do it all the time. but that sure would be nice!) anyway, i am thinking about buying dive computers (the little watch kind that monitors everything for you.) Not really romantic, but does he have anything like a hobby or something that you could buy something cool for him?

I found this on-line (so take it with a grain of salt)... One household chemical is damaging to white gold and that is chlorine. Chlorine can make the metal brittle in some cases. So, when wearing your ring, avoid pools, bleaches and similar situation where chlorine might get on the ring for a period of time. Chlorine should not affect "pure" metals such as platinum. Not sure about yellow gold, but i imagine it is not the gold itself that is affected by the chlorine, but the other metal added to create WHITE gold (either nickel or palladium, usually with a rhodium plating)... As for the diamonds, all i found on them was that the setting (again, the metal) could be damaged by the chlorine and you could lose your stone! I would think though that the chemical concentration would have to be pretty extreme to cause any severe damage - and you wouldn't even be in the water if it was that bad! Also, a lot of hot tubs and pools now use alternate chemicals to chlorine (i think bromine is one) because of chlorine sensitivities... so i guess i would be careful - but not too paranoid. If your ring comes into contact with chlorine, make sure you give it a good rinse, just in case...

welcome! St. Lucia will be wonderful... (that was our first choice too, but the travel time from Vancouver was just <bleh>. I think it was something like 16 hours each way, with 2 stops - and i don't sit still well!) Congratulations!!!!!

thanks again! My FI now thinks i am insane because all i have talked about for the last few days is "oh, and i saw this on the forum... and i want to do this... and look what this girl did!"

Yikes - sorry guys... the website i was looking at (Clothingwarehouse.com) has an unsatisfactory BBB rating due to numerous complaints!!!! Better Business Bureau Serving Eastern MA, ME & VT

another plug for Toy Splash... i am thinking about getting either these Sit and Float Pool Lounges - Pool Rafts & Pool Lounges ? ToySplash Inflatable Rafts & Lounges or these (the price is for a 2 pack) Inflatable Sun Seat Lounge Chair - Pool Floats & Pool Lounges - ToySplash Inflatable Lounges & Floats these seem more like the kind of thing my guests would like... a little expensive (and probably heavy!) if you have a lot of OOT bags to do, but i should have less than 10 so it might be a nice addition.

thanks for that - i've been looking for a cheap SPF lip balm for my bags!

we HOPE to be having just 6 - 4 guests plus us... however, FI's brothers have now decided they want to go (even though they invited themselves!) so we don't really know... To keep the familial peace, we have not told them they can't go - in fact, we even smiled graciously and said "sure, we would love to have you there", but we are not sending out invitations, which is what they want us to do!

I'm so glad to see a thread like this - FI and I are both in the insurance industry, and you would not believe how many people just don't think to insure their valuables! I haven't read the whole thread, but my $.02 is this - pay the extra premium and make sure your limits are high enough to cover your ring! (it is usually not a huge amount). Ours is insured through our homeowner's policy, but as a separate item. Within the first few pages, i noticed someone saying that your homeowner's or renter's policies only cover jewelry up to a certain amount and she is absolutely right. MAKE SURE YOU HAVE PROPER COVERAGE - because if anything ever happens, you don't want to have to replace your ring out of your own pocket! Sorry - i'm lecturing now. i'll stop!!!

Hi ladies! I am getting married 10-09-08... and i don't feel like i have done much at all! I have a dress... that i am not 100% certain i want to wear now! I have no shoes or accessories. We have a shirt for FI, but no pants <lol>. Nothing for his best man. My MOH has her dress. Our flights and resort and all that stuff are booked. That has been done for a while and i am SOOO relieved. I have also finished our wedding website, so now i can give that out to everyone who asks where we are going! Not inviting people (except for my MOH/best friend and her boyfriend and FI's best man/best friend and his wife) so not sending invites. still have A LOT of work to do, including (but not limited to!) Finalize dress Get accessories & shoes Get pants and shoes for the man! Figure out Best Man outfit Plan, buy and assemble stuff for OOT (should be fairly easy w/ so few people!) Gifts for MOH and BM Register find announcements and prepare them for mailing plan AHR (that is a whole other crisis!)

i second LC Rachel's suggestion of the white linen suit. We would be going that route too, but FI wears a suit to work every day and wants to be more comfortable for our wedding... you could either do shirts to match the BM dresses, or white shirts and just have the boutonneires (SP!) with ribbon that matches the BM...

wow - i am so sorry you are having such problems. i am also getting married in October (9th) at ASP and i have been extremely pleased with our resort contact. I have e-mailed her many times about various things and every time, i get a response in a day or less, and if she doesn't know the answer, she forwards the e-mail (and cc's me) directly to someone at the resort. Now that you finally have your date and time set, i hope everything goes much more smoothly for you!!!

thanks guys... my first response is always the emotional one, but i can see the logic in your suggestions! i'll have FI discuss it w/ the BM (both the shirt AND the fact that she wants to wear a white dress!) and see how it goes from there. He knows that his wife can get a bit carried away with things, so he can probably be a bit more effective in dealing with her. I am not really known for my tact on a good day, and lately, a lot of little things are starting to get to me. I guess because we are the last of our group of friends to get married, everyone wants to give advice on how THEY did it. I know that they mean well, but, i attended most of those weddings, and while they were perfectly lovely, they weren't our style for the most part. So i just want to say "you already had YOUR wedding, now let us have ours!" Part of why we wanted a DW was so we didn't have to deal with all the drama - but i guess there will always be drama no matter what you do!

i said at some point that we most likely would put the guys in white linen... that has been the plan from the start. this shirt is neither white (more of an ivory) nor linen. i really don't know what she was thinking... don't get me started on the fact that she is looking for a WHITE dress to wear with these red and white shoes she just had to have... i'm not sure how FI will handle it, since he is REALLY not good at dealing with conflict... I suppose he will discuss it with the Best Man, and then her husband is going to have to reel her in. (I don't think the BM cares one way or the other... He is just excited to be going to MX!)

Am i being silly here? We have not yet finalized what my FI is going to wear, because we wanted to wait and see what kind of dress i chose. So i finally picked and ordered my dress last week, and am starting to figure out what i want him to wear. Well, a couple of days ago, the wife of the best man calls and tells me she bought a shirt for her husband to wear! Ok, i am really not trying to be a bridezilla, but is this reasonable? We haven't even chosen the GROOM'S outfit yet! So we went over there the day before yesterday, and while it is a very nice shirt, it's not what i had in mind. I want the men to wear white linen shirts and this one is a nice stiff cotton. Now, if FI wears linen and the best man wears this shirt, FI will look like a rumpled slob next to him! So, now it seems like if i say 'no, you can't wear that' i am being a spoiled brat... but i don't feel like we should have to choose my FI's outfit based on what the best man wants to wear. When he got married and Jon was his best man, Jon chose an outfit to complement the groom. Isn't that the way it is supposed to go, NOT the other way round? What should i do? How do you tactfully tell a friend - "Sorry, but it's our wedding and we chose XYZ for the men to wear..." I'm really upset about this, but the FI says don't worrry, it will all work itself out, but i just don't know.

thanks everybody - i guess i just needed some unbiased opinions. You know how it is, sometimes you need to hear from people who don't know you - because they aren't as concerned about hurting your feelings, or telling you what they think you want to hear! As soon as the dress arrives, i will post some pics of me in it. Oh- i forgot to respond to the question about what my FI will think... i actually think he will love it too, so that is definitely not a concern. I guess i was just more worried about what the "wedding" pics will look like... but i think you are all right - If i FEEL good in it, that is the most important thing. Thanks, i feel better now.

thanks everybody for the warm welcomes...

thanks... i just joined, and i guess i was starting to feel a bit after seeing all the threads with everyone having very light, more "appropriate" looking dresses! i started thinking "what have i done? should i go for the white eyelet look, and at least TRY to look like a bride?" I don't actually have the dress in my possession yet - but will post pics as soon as it arrives! They did not have the colour i wanted in stock in my size, so i ordered it on-line. Just as well, because i got it for half of what i would have paid in the BCBG store in Vancouver! And it ended up being less than 10% of what i had originally budgeted for my outfit... my fiance loved that part, until i told him now i could just spend more on shoes! btw - you guys are awesome... i am so glad i joined here!

Ok, so this is my second marriage, my fiance's first. I got married really young the first time around, and did the whole big wedding, white dress thing. I knew that this time, i wanted to get a colored dress (i just feel something colorful suits me better!), but what i initially had in mind was something very pale blue or aqua in a light flowy chiffon. what i bought is this... Blue Long Gowns by BCBG MAXAZRIA i tried it on and fell in love with it. i swear it is the only article of clothing i have ever tried on that looked better on me than on the model! (Usually i just feel like a sausage...This was very obviously designed for a busty girl such as myself!!!) The fabric is a really nice, cool jersey, and it just feels so good against my skin. The color looks great with my blue eyes and made me immediately think of the ocean. And even though i am working out like a fiend trying to get in shape for the wedding, it makes me feel beautiful and slim! Anyway, the problem is, now i am starting to panic because i am afraid the color is too dark for a wedding. So what do you ladies think? Should i look for a different - more "wedding appropriate" dress? My MOH and family say it is fine and if i love it, i should wear it. But are they just telling me that because they don't want to upset me?

that dress is really cute... there is a local designer down the street from me that has a very similar dress that i have had my eye on for a while - but at $195, i keep talking myself out of it. Sears, here i come!

Hi everyone! My name is Beth, and i am a little late to this forum, as i am getting married in just a little over 4 months - October 9, 2008 (10-09-08... i thought it would be easy for my fiance to remember the date that way!) NAFTA must love us - I am an American living in Canada, marrying a Canadian in Mexico We are getting married at ASP in the Riviera Maya... and i foolishly believed there wasn't really that much i would have to do except show up! I have seen the error of my ways and have been trying to make amends these last few days. This site has been a wealth of information and i have only scratched the surface. so.... thanks for all the great info and thanks for having me!