it is not that I expect the gift. It is this: I guess where we come from it is still the traditional thing for the bride's family to pay for the wedding, dress, yada, yada. The groom's family still pays for the rehersal dinner, the alcohol, and so on. It is not whether or not they help us financially. Like I said, I am having the free wedding and only upgrading the cake and the steel drum band. My parents are paying for that and our travel. Which like i said before, I am so greatful for! What I do expect, is an offer to my parents as to what they can do! That to me is common courtesy. FMIL knows what our expenses are so she could have at least called my mom. Or for that matter, called my mom to see if she needs any help planning the shower. I guess by her not calling my mom, i am starting to feel like it is her way of putting the wedding off and the longer she puts it off, the more she does not have to think about her precious son getting married.
IT is not that I expect them to pay! I do however expect them to try to help, either in asking questions about it or calling to see how plannning is going!