I don't think the norm has changed though the media would have us think everyone has children and then a wedding. I also was told I would never have children due to having only one fallopian tube/ovary (surgery when I was nine). So I used bc, but irregularly and ended up pregnant. Was it my ideal, no but I don't regret it. I'm just thrilled that I do have a child and will be getting married, not to her father, but to a man who has old fashioned ideals very similar to mine. We want more children and will be trying as soon as the honeymoon begins.