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Quote: Originally Posted by cheese_diva I think part of the problem may be your approach. Stop putting down your idea before you even tell her. You aren't crazy for wanting a candy bar! It's just a relatively new idea for weddings and may not be something your FMIL has seen before. It's not tacky and when they're well put together they're beautiful. If I were you I would just share your excitement. She's less likely to rain on your parade.. well, then again she is a MIL.. but you wouldn't double check with a hall owner or a park if that's where you were having your AHR.. Do what you want as long as it's within your budget. Im having it at her house, thats the whole problem.

I am going to wait to talk to her until I talk to my FI. She takes everything VERY pesonally and dont want to hurt her feelings. I know she will think I am mad at her.... Im just frustrated and honsetly the last thing I need right now! but thanks for the good advice, I will let you know how it goes.... And yes they want more of a traditional wedding..... obviously Kevin and I are not hence getting married in cabo and this reception back here was just supposed to be a fun big party..... Oh yeah we also asked them if we would be able to put tables in the living room so more people coulf fit comfortably, and they said "absoultely not" because they want everything in their house to look perfect.... Im thinking of, you want beer to get spilt all over your 10k couches, whatever! Sorry I sound like a huge bitch im just soooo frustrated!

I am going to wait to talk to her until I talk to my FI. She takes everything VERY pesonally and dont want to hurt her feelings. I know she will think I am mad at her.... Im just frustrated and honsetly the last thing I need right now! but thanks for the good advice, I will let you know how it goes.... And yes they want more of a traditional wedding..... obviously Kevin and I are not hence getting married in cabo and this reception back here was just supposed to be a fun big party..... Oh yeah we also asked them if we would be able to put tables in the living room so more people coulf fit comfortably, and they said "absoultely not" because they want everything in their house to look perfect.... Im thinking of, you want beer to get spilt all over your 10k couches, whatever! Sorr I sound like a huge bitch im just soooo frustrated!

Thanks girls, its just frustrating becuase its about the tenth time this has happend.... I say I want wine, beer and maragritas.... then the say no lets just do wine and beer..... Or lets uninvite kids becuase there are too many people coming.... WTH there is only two kids coming UGHHHH!!!! Cant wait till this is over!

I havent emailed her back yet. And I feel bad because we do have an amazing relationship but I dont understand what the big f$%# deal!

I already sent her tons of pics..... guess she doesnt like it LOL! Im being a BIATCH and want one! And the thing is I have already pretty much done it all..... I spent like 5 hours yesterday working on it and buying everything for it.

No I am paying for the candy buffet! But the AHR is at her house.... Im sure its because she thinks its tacky so she wants me to get stuff for a coffee bar instead.... and um pretty sure people will be throwing down been and margaritas instead of coffee.... except for the older crowd and coffee will be available anyways... I mean I know its just a candy bar.... but its just the principle...

I bought mine and Joann's and decorated them myself!

Ok I desperately neeeeeeddd to vent!!!!!!!!!!!! I dont know if you all know but my FI and I are currently living with my FMIL and FFIL, we are house sitting and have actually been living with them for the past 4 months and now they moved to cali so we are house sitting. Well I LOVE my FMIL to death but they have been from the start very worried about their house and impressing people. Dont get me wrong, their house is gorgeous, but I and all of my friends family are not into that and would not care if we were having our AHR at a trail park or their house. SOOOOO the new thing was I was so excited to do the candy buffet. I went out and bought EVERYTHING for it and have been spenind tond of time working on it! I have been scared to tell my FMIL because I wasnt sure how she was going to react having a "candy buffet" at her house. From where I see it, its my wedding and I should be able to choose what I want. So I sent her this email "..... and your going to shoot me but I started another project that I fell in love with (dont kill me). I bought everything for it last night at ikea and was super cheap (jars were like 3 bucks each). But thought this would be the cutest little touch to do.... I was busy last night doing it and should be all done on friday for you to see.... here is the pics because Im sure your like what the heck are you talking about psycho bride to be!!!! I just need to figure out where to put it. It wouldnt take up a ton of room but think it would be so cute and easy, they call them candy buffets and would just get little baggies So you think thats ok? and she sent me this back Hi Psycho Bride....is it too late to stop your new project!!! LOL! UGH! OMG!I was thinking you were going to do a coffee bar. I know the candy bar iscute, but with all the other expenses do you think we could do without that?Sorry, is it really too late? I don't want to say no, but I think the coffee bar would be better. Don't be upset with me. You know I hate to say NO to you................................. Sorry to burst your bubble on the candy bar. I LOVE YOU!Jaci WTH..... I know its just a "candy buffet" but its more the principle!!!! I WANT MY F-ING CANDY BAR!!!!!!! LOL Am I being to crazy here or what?

what a cute story!! Congrats!

How fun!!! Im jealous, im due for a little vacation!

I found them online. But how would I post it on here? You can also PM and I can email it to you.

OMG I LOVE them!!! You look so beautiful and sexy!

Thanks Morgan, I will have to check with her.

Beautiful pics, great job!

I though i saw that someone had a personalized Hersheys candy bar template on here. Im cheap and dont wanna pay for one. Anyone have one I could borrow pretty please!!!

Wow you did such an amazing job, everything looks so great!

Happy wedding day!!!! Cant wait to hear all about it!

Did everyone buy their candy online, I know a couple websites were peosted but is there one you found to be the best?

I just got done reading her website, and couldnt help but cry. She sounds like an amazing women with great strength and courage. I cant believe the amount of people that have come together to show support.

Oh my god, what a sad story, Im so sorry to hear from your friend. She will be in our prayers.

Congrats, thats soooo sxciting!

Lindsay, your pictures turned out beautiful, Crongrats!

Michelle, Im so sorry to hear this. No matter if its expected or not its never easy to lose a loved one. Im sorry you have to go through this, we are all hear if you need anything.

I know I cant wait, did they say when it will be beginning?