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OMG!!!! That is an amaxing banana hammock!
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Quote: Originally Posted by LC_Rachel Do you want an AHR? Or are you doing it because the parents want it? I'm so sorry this snowballed. THat seems to happen when there are bigger issues that haven't come to surface. It sounds like his parents haven't cut the cord yet. It's like they are grounding you because they don't think you are spending the wedding money the way they see fit. That's bullshit. You two are adults. I would be pissed if my parents gave us our wedding money as leverage to boss us around. That's what it sounds like they did. Yeah we really wanted one, but just to be a big party, very casual. She just text me to apologize for everything and that they are haveing the reception at their house, she said she feels awful and is afraid things are not the same between us.
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Those are amazing heidi!!! You made the most beautiful bride, cant wait to see the rest.
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How fun, thanks for sharing!
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LMAO Christa, thats amazing!
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Thanks girls for all your support. Wasnt the best night in the World..... Some crazy stuff has happened with this wedding but havent flipped out, but after I posted on here things rolled down hill and all of last night until the morning there was no longer a reception. I dont know how in the hell things snowballed and got so out of control. I got email after email... a couple from his mom, Keivn got some from his dad and it wasnt good. So out of all this chiaos over F-ing CANDY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You would think that it would have been something MORE than the CANDY. but is wasnt! is that ridiculous or what? Basically what I got out of it and what they told us (AMONG MANY MANY OTHER THINGS) is that they are trying to teach us a lesson. WTF..... They said that we need to learn how to buget things and since we are already over (which I was never told of even though i have asked and asked over again, actually asked right before the big blow out if we were over the 5K and they said NO) there is no need to have USELESS and UNIMPORTANT things at our wedding. Are you kidding me? IMO this is my wedding if were over budget we are paying and should not be told NO YOU CANT HAVE THIS if Im paying for it. So after I was very nice hoping they wouldnt cancel the wedding on us they were very lets say inpolite back. I told them that I actually didnt think twice about having it because its cheap, fun, cute, and thought the guests would like it. And didnt think it was useless or unimportant which is why I wanted it.... My reply I got back was..."well you asked what I thought about it and I told it" So thats my stupid candy story LOL!! I cant believe how absolutely riduclous all of this is. Oh BTW..... After all this, there is NO candy buffet..... Im not allowed to have it at their house... Geeesh! I did get a text form his mom apologizing for everything that happend also this morning. So right now still not sure if were having the AHR!
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You guys are seriously the best FRIENDS in the whole wide world..... I had one hell of night and from the posts things only got worse from there which why I didnt get back on to tell you what was going on...... THANKS FOR MAKING MY MORNING AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BTW Im seriously LOL!!!!! Much better than crying out loud!!!
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Thanks guys I just wrote her a long email so hopefully things wil be sorted out!!!
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Just got this email from her: Sarah, I am sorry for this whole mess. I was complaining to Shane about thecandy buffet and I should have just kept my BIG mouth shut. It doesn'treally matter. Things are a mess because of me. I just want everyoneto be happy, that's all.
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Ok we will just say things are not good right now. Im sitting her crying like a frekaing baby having a nervous break down!!!! So the chain of events that happened in the last hour: Kevin called his mom who didnt answer so called his dad because knew that he was upset about something also.... basically things didnt end well and they hung up the phone with eachother. I guess his dad said that we have been spending way too much money and are getting carried away with everything. I guess Kevin fired back a couple things saying we are going a cheap as we could possibly go and it shouldnt matter to them because WE PAY for anything over the 5k. (which I have reminded to tell them to tell me once we have hit that mark so we can pay the rest). Kevin said why now are you telling us that a $25 candy stand is an issue anyways. Kevin said that his mom blew it way out of porportion and his father replied saying "well its mutual" ---- saying IM blowing it out of proportion. Thats about alll Kevin told me until he hung up. THEN they he brings up there there is too many people and that we have to "uninvite" people. WTF!!!! I told Kevin this AHR will be cancelled if we have to tell someone is uninvited.... and they thought the candy stand was tacky! Kevin said that if this was the issue than it should have been brought up BEFORE invites were sent out!!! So then Kevin calls me I break down and tell him were not having the wedding and on and on.......... Kevin calls his mom and says that if you dont feel comfortable with us having the wedding we need to know now. It is in seven weeks. He said I was really upset about everything. Well I guess she said, well if she so upset about the candy then she can have the candy! So he told her its FAR beyond the candy issue and she told him she had to let him go So then Kevin calls me again and tells me what happened but then has to go (I know perfect timing) because hes a coach and the baseball game was starting. SO then Kevins mom calls me, and tells me not to cry everything will be fine. At this point I didnt give a F what was going on and she says Im sorry about the candy buffet I really didnt think it would be an issue. I told her its soooo much more then the stupid candy now, its everything.... if you dont want/feel comfortable to have the reception than we wont have it... so she says "no you are having it here, you have to theres no where else" I mean come on thats not a way to calm someone down and make them feel better... not able to do it anywere else So then Kevin called me right now right before his game and he told me after the game was over that he was going to call and speak with his parents and say, there is obviously an issue with us having the wedding here. Otherwise this would not have been brought up AGAIN (mind you this happened about three weeks ago where his mom flipped out with the number of people and said we should start looking for somewhere to have the wedding). And that we will either look at just cancelling it in general or somewhere else. So things are just dandy right now
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AHHHH Kevins on the phone with his mom right now.... Im skird!
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lol no thats the plan when I get home! There some good ones on there! I have been meaning to but have been busy with my delicious candy bar ;o)
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Quote: Originally Posted by lucky k72 OK! This has nothing to do with candy bars, coffee bars, etc. This is about power and power struggles. I have seen this time and time again. Everybody is sweet and then weddings just do something wacky to families. She's trying to show you who the alpha female in her family. If it wasn't a candy bar it would be something else. Like the girls said let FI handle this. And I say you should now go to the bar!!! I know, its way beyond that. I will let you guys know what happens with Kevin and his mom. I told him to cool off before he called so he doesnt say anything he doesnt mean. He is really upset by the ay she reacted to. Quote: Originally Posted by Alyssa Sarah - are you oK? Im good Alyssa!!!! Thanks so much for caring, just upset. Hopefully it will get better after Kevin talks to her....
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OK definetly not responding to that!!! Im sooo bad Im shaking!
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This just sucks really bad becuase we have an amazing relationship and she has never been like this towards me.
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Kevin and I bought the candy on our own. Thats why im so confused, there isnt a dime coming out of her pocket for that.
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Sorry I should have emphasized his parents are giving us $5000 for the wedding and we can use it how we want.... plus WE ARE PAYING FOR THE CANDY!!!! Also I wrote her an email earlier today telling her when it gets over 5000 we will pay for everything else! I just called my FI and he is speaking with her. Were those emails rude or was it just me?
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OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOOK AT THIS EMAIL I JUST GOT! I just think it's going to be too costly and not a necessary expense. Between Picazzo's, the tables/chairs, centerpieces, cake, bartender, DJ, Pam, evap coolers, decorations etc. etc. we are over $5,000. We really need to stop spending. I think it will be as wonderful a party without a candy buffet. So my vote is NO for the candy buffet.
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I know.... dont worry I will let you know what she says!
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Quote: Originally Posted by timelsel This is starting to sound like a candy-lover's anonymous group - "Hello, my name is Melanie, and I love candy!" haha I Know!!!! Im a little overzellous over my candy bar!
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Sent!!!!!!
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Ok I didnt send it yet but she just sent this to me: Please don't be upset with me about the Candy Buffet.I think it's a cute idea, but not very practical, esp. sincereally the only little kids who will be there are Kate andTaylor. The teenagers and adults won't really care too much about having that or even miss it if it's not there.Don't you think?
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I know, I NEED to be more assertive but always feel bad.... THANK YOU MAURA!!!
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Ok..... Thank you guys. I know I should be more assertive. I just read it to my coworkers and they said DO not put the lst sentence in. Dont give her a chance to shut you down.
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Ok Just talked to Kevin (FI) and he was so pissed.... only becuase this is something little that has been going on the whole entire time... I mean a coffee bar WTF!!! Sorry if any of yo are. I think it would be great if it was a very elegant formal wedding but its a big party, and like you said... who doesnt like candy! So anyways Kevin was about to call his mom and blow up on her and after calming him down I told him I would write her an email.... so let me know if this is nice yet assertive: Hey Jaci! Its not too late to stop everything. I can return it all and eat all the candy LOL! JK! But Kevin and I really think it would be fun to have, I think it would look nice and all the guests would enjoy it. But if you really dont want me to do it I wont. How does that sound? Havent sent it yet?