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Reggie, welcome to the wonderful world of destination wedding planning where nothing is as it was written in any wedding ettiquete book. It's great you're up for getting involved inthe wedding planning process. Any tips on getting FI"s more excited about the details? More specifically the details I've already decided and want him to be supper excited about? lol

Great review and pictures. You look so beautiful in both your dresses. I so want a pic like the one of your wedding rings on the Vive Mexico image. Is that a postcard? I love, love, love, that your photographer called your ttd, a True Romance Session! FI hates the term "trash the dress" and True Romance Session just captures feeling of the pictures better. Congratualations Mrs.Morley!

Quote: Originally Posted by beachbride one is to keep and one is to throw... I just think it might be fun for Amos to take off later... lol! Yup, thats the only reason I"m considering wearing one. FI would be dissapointed if he didn't get to take it off, it's one of the things he knows for sure happens in a wedding.

Great job ladies! You deserve it! Congrats!

dum,dum...duhdum...here comes the... Congrats! Have a great day and a wonderful time in Tulum! Hope to hear all about it and see lots of pics! And I too hope you get to do your ttd at the ruins!

Does anyone now of another option for covering up? Or are pashmina light enough to be worn during the day, say noon? I know it's going to be hot in May, but I have a few people that may want to cover up their arms.

Quote: Originally Posted by DreamsTulumBride read the post about the ttd at the ruins (by matt adcock). This is a protective site, they charge 500$ to have pictures taken there. They only allow a few tourist pictures. I am affraid with you wedding dress, they might say no... also, you will need to walk alot before you get to the ruins beach...you will be very hot and with many other people... the best time to go there is at 9 am. Oh no. 500 dollars or pesos? I can't for the life of me find that post. Do you have a link?

Quote: Originally Posted by Galit Also, I would consider doing the champagne toast/drinks after the ceremony, but save the cake for the dinner celebration. I think saving the cake will make the dinner more "wedding-ish." Ooh. I think I like that idea, even though I was kinda looking forward to doing desert before dinner just for kicks. I will have to try and work something out. I almost have the timeline figured out, I wil have to run it by my MOH and a few other people too. How does this sound? 11 am- Get ready 12 pm- Ceremony 12:30- Champagne+ cake?+ first dances? + pictures 2 pm- Pictures at Ruins ----Snack/lunch before going ----everyone else can hang out, have lunch, swim, nap...ect 5pm-Get ready for dinner 6pm- Dinner + (cake?) 9pm- Night show ===> Disco

I'm so sorry to hear that. When things aren't going the way I though they would with planning I try to remember that getting married is not about the wedding day, it is about the love you share and sharing it with those you love. The day you do marry Amos will be so much more than the wedding details and your love will be that much stronger for making this decision now.

Happy Birthday! Celabrate!: woot:

Michelle- Sending the STD would be the "proper" thing to do, but in the end it is up to you and your FI and the way your FBIL+wife have acted is anything but proper. Nobody can say you didn't try. Don't let it take any more of your time and go and enjoy your Vegas trip. Have fun! Maria-Great advice for dealing with difficult people.

OMG-I must find a use for these. They are too cute and diy not to. Thanks for sharing

Quote: Originally Posted by Morgan http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...o-salcedo.html Thanks! Vanessa just emailed me back with Juan Alfredo's email About the 12pm wedding...I'm the 3rd wedding that day, don't know what times the other two are but it was either that or 5pm and FI said he wanted it early. It's pretty much set. I will have parasols and hopefully the wedding canopy thingy; not sure if that is what is considered the gazebo at DT. Galit- You're so right about not worrying about getting all the shots I want since there aren't that many people. My sis just said at her wedding she wished she had a list since she didn't get pics with people she wanted. I do have a budget, it's just kinda wierd since we will paying about 10+ thousand for travel/hotel for ourselves and family. We are trying to stay as far below 20 as we can. I have given us about $1,200 for anything wedding ceremony and mini-reception related, like: more cake, champagne, flowers, decor, and music-anything not included in our free pkg. But I don't want to blow more than half on live musicians, really considering I-pod (will have later like Morgan's camera) and taking advantage of the disco DJ. Everything else is split into photography/video, attire, at home reception, with some left over for spending. What do you think of splitting the wedding day? having the ceremony, then cake+ drinks, and pictures, and then leaving our guests while we do pictures at the ruins at Tulum and then meeting up with everyone around 6ish for dinner, evening show and disco?

IMO-I say send the STD and really do it because you want all your family there, not to show them you are taking the higher road. You should remember men can be very sensitive when it comes to money issues, and it really sounds like he is being defensive and using a differnt excuse to not discuss his financial status. Your FI should write a heartfelt letter (no emotional face to face outbursts) to his brother and let him know he understands he has to put his children first, but will miss having him near in a very special time in his life. Maybe once everyone calms down, perhaps FBIL will realize family is there to support him and he should try his best to support your FI in his (your) wedding. As far as the wife- sometimes a woman has to stick by her man. Another route to take would be to have a frank talk with the wife and maybe get to the root of the problem- also, suggest leaving the kids behind as a way to have a romantic getaway- even if it is just a long weekend. Appeal to her romantic side, she might start thinking bout all the other great reasons to go (other than your wedding of course) hehe!

I contacted a possible photographer (Vanessa Vargas) and she suggested I tell her a little about our wedding, so I did and it turned into a lot about our wedding. And i realized I have a lot to figure out still. Pretty much I know what I want but don't know the order and I need to figure something out so I can decide how many hours we need to hire the photographer, videographer, musicians. I was hoping for some feedback on my timeline. Any suggestions would be welcome. TIA Dreams Tulum: Wedding in Paradise (free) Package and adding little extras We are having a small wedding with only those very close to us. It will be on the beach (unless it rains- then DT's backup-the chapel) and very casual. 15 people minimum including Tim and I. Tim and Erica Mom and Dad Mami y Papi E’s sister + husband T’s Brother + wife T’s Brother + wife + 1y/o baby T’s two single brothers 20 people maximum if 6 invited friends come. Symbolic ceremony at 12noon I want both my parents to walk me down the isle, and T's parents to do the same for him. We are having only one attendant each: my sister as MOH, one of his brother's as BM Colors: Pink dress for MOH and possibly MOB, unsure of everyone else, but want all guests to coordinate (ie: shades of bue and greens, with khaki pants for men) We will not be having a reception, and I am not sure about the timeline after the ceremony: ie: cake and champagne, pictures, dancing, eating.. I want us to have Lunch or Dinner together at some point –most likely at the buffet (only place not charging service fee per person)- I am very budget conscious not sure how important pictures of luch/dinner would be to us. I am thinking of hiring a trio romantico (if I can find the rigth one for the right price) for the ceremony and maybe a little afterwards- so that would determine if we do first dances. I-pod music might have to be it and then I have no idea if/when we will do dancing. I want to do cake cutting and champagne toasts; either on beach or other area. If it is right after ceremony and we have live music still then maybe do first dances before or after cake. Not sure what is said during the symbolic ceremony but we would like to exchange rings, I Do's, modified lazo ceremony (to honor my mexican roots/parents), a ceremony or reading to honor Tim's roots/parents (traditional/German/Irish), a shell or stone blessing ceremony to include all guests and a sand ceremony for Tim and I. I do not plan on having bouquet or garter toss- Tim's a little dissapointed about the garter. First dance/father daughter dance/ dancing: I'm torn on this one; didn't think I wanted this, but after being in Sis's wedding and having a great time on the dance floor (after a few drinks) I am rethinking and also, Tim has said this is something he wants in our wedding-not quite sure how or when to work it in. We talked about doing the disco later in the day- but our wedding is at noon so it would be quite a while, not sure if we would have pictures other than ones taken by guests then. The more I think about it, the more I want a videographer for at least our ceremony and possibly for cake cutting. - My sister just sent us her wedding video and even though I dreaded seeing myself on camera, I loved it and it holds such special memories and we got to see things we missed. any good affordable (really affordable) videographer recommendations? Our main priority is having great visual memories of our guests and ourselves enjoying our wedding weekend, we want everyone to feel loved and know that they mean a lot to us as we join our lives and families together. We would like pictures on the beach and in other areas of resort. We would like individual and group pictures We would also like to do pictures with each guest/couple/family. Pictures of Tim and I at the Tulum Ruins would be nice, but not a necessity-maybe some mild trash the dress if we are feeling adventurous Pictures of us gettting ready would also be nice. Some direction with posing would be nice- I won't say who's side, but I have a pic of part of our group in which they are standing a foot apart from each other like they're strangers!LOL! I would like alittle more chumminess in our pics also having someone who speaks spanish would be great for my parents. We prefer having a CD of all images as opposed to having a ton of prints. a few really great prints would be nice I have some specific shots like wedding rings on a local newpaper showing the date, and all the girls with parasols that I would like. What is the best way to make a list of these?

Yay! Have a great wedding day!

I had one credit card delivered to an old address and it was used by someone. I found out when the credit card company called about suspicious activity on my card. I hadn't used it in a long time so I knw those wont weren't my charges. I was so taken by surprise I didn't know what to do, now I wish I had been more proactive about it and kept better track of who I spoke with. Thankfully my card company took care of it and nothing more came of it. I've checked my credit report a couple times after wards and everything is fine since then. Great advice Maria, wish I'd had that when I went through this. Lizz- I hope your FI's credit is not affected too much, it's good you were alerted early on.

Sorry can't seem to be able to attach the brochures, I think they are too big.

Annie- I love the table setting. I want to do the same thing and not be charged for dinner which is already AI. I posted in the new convention center at DT thread about the new pdf brochures Landy emailed last night, they are so helpful with all the policies on groups. I think the only place do not get charged would be the World Cafe buffet, where they can set an area aside for your group. I will likely go this route for an after ceremony Lunch for my 14+ people so I am on the search for pictures of what the tables and decor look like in the buffet restaurant. Still working out the details of when to do cake and toast and possibly dancing though. Let me know if you want the brochures- they have lots of pics including cake choices and some table settings.

Welcome! Tulum would be a great choice

Quote: Originally Posted by nylalany Does this mean you can't have a large private dinner on the beach anymore? hmm...good question. I will have to look them over again or better yet I will try to post them here when I get home and can open attachments. In the mean time I could always forward Landy's email with attachements to who ever wants these, just pm your email to me.

I just got some new brochures from Landy that have some really good info on it, like: " For 2008 weddings the maximum number of guests allowed to have dinner in the restaurants will be 20 people , for more than 20 people the dinner should take place at the Ballroom."

I voted for the AK ones. They are really cute and a tad more beachy- at least to me. Both are great choices though.

Congrats and happy planning!

Thanks all. I guess it just sounded worse than it really is, especially if this is normal for most resorts. And I hadn't even thought about safety issues but with the all inclusive drinks it's for the best to close the beach after dark. This gives me a good OOT bag gift idea: mini flashlights.