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MC Smurf- My last name now Golden Flash Smurf-what will be my married last name Too funny, it looks like in smurfland I would be quite th hip rapper! Too hillarious, I am the whitest white girl you could ever meet, or so Everton is always telling me! Kelly~

It depends if you really want to snorkel or not. They both sound nice. Kelly~

Quote: Originally Posted by MrsV-to-be Kelly - nice idea! I like it! Yes, I could totally see him missing the landing point (I mean how could you control it!) My other fear is that the boat driver will screw up and land him in a different wedding going on at the resort - hehe! opps! Now that would be funny!!! I can just imagine the look on the brides face! It's hard enough finding one good man, and now there are literally grooms falling from the sky, HEEHEHEE

I saw this particular bootcamp on that show Rich bride, poorbride on TLC. I guess it would work if you like someone yelling in your face, not my cup of tea. I am lucky weight has never been an issue for me, I just run to stay toned, and it def helps if you find someone to exercise with you. Now what I reallly want to do is a pole dancing class, find that Laura in Toronto, and I will be your workout buddie! Wouldn't that be a blast? The guys would probably like it too! Kelly~

Oh you look so beautiful, everything looked nice. Who walked you down the isle? Kelly~

What a cute idea, the shoes, not the bunions! LOL Kelly~

Those pics make me miss Jamaica, my fave place, ever, and the beautiful country that is my son's heritage ( my fi born and raised there) We are going to be staying at the RIU Ocho Rios next April or May for our honeymoon (unless we change our mind for Cabo) maybe I will see one of you girls get married. Kelly~

Quote: Originally Posted by LGENDEIN I was thinking of doing this idea but for the flower girls instead of a basket, but time got away from me and I had a hard time finding the right size for the petals. Can't wait to hear what you come up with. I am using a really cute tin pail for the flower petals(Liam wants to be a flower boy, hehe) maybe you would like this idea instead of a basket. I got my pail at Winners, it just goes with the beach theme. I think the shell idea is a great idea, it would be cute and different, a pillow doesn't really seem to belong at the beach. I would do this if I was having a ring bearer, but as I said Liam would perfer to throw petals then carry rings, who can blame him sounds like more fun to me. LOL Kelly~

I am of no help, I can't even figure out how to post pictures. LOL Can't wait to see it though!!! Kelly~

Quote: Originally Posted by MrsV-to-be I love the digital frame idea too! For the reception tables, I plan on using different items that are important in our lives. 1 table name will be "Abby & Stolie" after our 2 furbabies. another table will be called "Sledding" since it is Reilly's fav past time, that I have taken up (and we got engaged after snowmobiling to the top of a mountain in Revelstoke). Another one will be "Edmonton" because this is where we have been living for the past 2 years while I go to school etc. You get the drift! I thought that at each of the tables there would be a pic of the item and a little description of why it is important to us/our relationship! ****Why don't you test your guests and see if someone sitting at that table knows the importance of their table names, then inside put what it means, it could be a fun little game.**** Kelly~ oh and Reilly plans on making his grand entrance to the ceremony via parasailing....we will see if that happens or not though but he is quite serious! This would be funny to see, and "here comes the groom, oops there goes the groom right on by...."LOL Kelly~

We run together, rollarblade, we love love, love to dance, throw dinner parties (about 1 a month) and we like to go for walks with Liam and our shepherd/husky mix Echo. We also watch alot of football, Timothy plays every week, so we are total football parents, proud football parents. I also watch Everton's football games every weekend, and I do alot of runs (I run a 6 min mile) and Everton usually comes out to cheer me on. We also love gardening, and good wine. We also love eating out, good food and wine is a perfect ending to a hectic week. Kelly~ Oh yeah we also love to sit on the couch and watch reality t.v together.

I scored 46, the offBEAT bride, even though right now with all the problems, I am the bride who wants to BEAT someone LOL Kelly~

Quote: Originally Posted by TammyB Cain is a Engineer Tech for Nissan (we work for the same company, that's how we met.) He pretty much does body testing for prototype vehicles. Everton works for Nissan also, sounds like a cool job Cain has. Kelly~

We are also going to do our legeal ceremony in Canada right before we leave, nobody knows. Our wedding coordinator has no problems with this, happens all the time. We are also still having a minister there, and it is my real weding as far as I am concerned. You are actually the first people I have told this too, so don't tell!! Kelly~ I also believe the free weddings are based on how many rooms you book, not if you are doing your legal wedding there. You will have to add on to the free weddings, whereever you go I would think, I think the free wedding is pretty basic.

Quote: Originally Posted by leigh miller i should!!! i always tease him. he likes cats and farts a lot too. its a wonder we ever got together Did you say farts?? You must explain. He likes to do it, or smelling them?? Never heard anyone claim to like farts, let alone alot!! LOL

Quote: Originally Posted by Nini_Bride Well, all of us BDW gals are invited, right?! Can't wait, what a party we will have!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by MikkiStreak Jumping gee-willigers, Batman! I did the exact "I HOPE YOU LOSE YOUR JOB!" and without thinking, I said back to her, "I HOPE I DO TOO!" That was the moment when I knew I had to get out of there! Your funny, hehehe!

Quote: Originally Posted by Just Martha It's fun to read what we all do for a living. I think we all have pretty interesting jobs! So, I thought it would be neat to see what the men (or women) in our lives do for a living. Jay is a Dynamite Shooter for a seismic company. He works out of state (in various parts of the country) for 6 weeks then he's home for 2 weeks. He shoots dynamite under the ground to check for natural resources. No amimals are ever hurt because they do it underground. He is currently working in New York. I miss him tons. :heart: He works 13 hour days/7 days a week for 6 weeks. His 2 weeks home is lovely and I look forward to it! He does this job because he loves it but he is also doing it so we can save money for our wedding, a new home we hope to build soon and to provide a comfortable life for us. His being gone sucks but we have been doing it for 2 years already. I love him! That must be hard being away from each other, must keep the passion there though! It sounds like a dangerouse job, you must worry all of the time, I kwow I would. Is he going to keep doing this job, or is it just till you have enough money for a house. It would be a tough life always worrying that he will be okay. Everton is the business manager for a car dealership. He loves his job, but it is long hours and alot of stress. He is usually the first in and the last to leave, some nice perks though, we could drive a different kind of car everyday if we wanted, I make him drive a van, he loves me for that LOL, every once in awhile he comes home with a great sports car, and pretends he doesn't have 5 kids! Kelly~

We didn't register, for the same reasons as most of the other girls. We have lived together for years, we were both married before, and we feel making the trip is gift enough. We are having a very casual ahr, so I don't want gifts for this either. My girls are throwing me a small personal shower with just my closest friends, that is the most I would allow. We are going to drink coctails and have chocolate fondu, should be fun. Kelly~

Quote: Originally Posted by Nini_Bride That's very true, but why the heck would they put down a deposit if they can't afford it? I'm sorry, that's just not fiscally smart. And if you really want to make it, but can't afford it, then a chat or a heads up BEFORE the final pay date is probably the smart thing to do. I will have plenty of guests who won't be able to afford it - fine, that's ok. You don't put down a deposit and then neglect to save up $1000. Not only have you invested the extra time and energy into making the arrangements after they RSVP'd, but now you have to make arrangements for those of your guests that are left high and dry because of this. UGH! This makes me angry and they're not even my guests!!!! On the flipside. My family put down our deposits for my cousin's wedding, we saved our money for the trip and when we went to place our final payment on the day the final payment was due... THE DAY IT WAS DUE, we found out from the TA (not my cousin, the TA!) that the wedding was cancelled. We went anyways because we would have lost out on $500 worth of deposits, but that's the flipside to Wedding Deposit Blues! lol Courtney that is so rude also, I guess there is always going to be the rude and inconsiderate, not much we can do about it. The thing that gets me is it's not 1 or even 2 people, but 12 people, Everton's entire family, so it's not just about not being able to afford it. Has anyone had a whole entire family cancell last minute, it certainly makes me feel like they really don't care about us, which is something I have said for years. Everton's going to have a hard time convincing me otherwise. Kelly~

Quote: Originally Posted by Nini_Bride I'm not sure about in the U.S., but in Canada they provide the shots in the school system. So, when I was in grade twelve I got all of my shots updated (hep shots, meningitus etc) and provided for me at my school. Anyways, the nurse told me they last a long time... for some reason I'm thinking 5 or 9 years. Either way, I'm in the clear. But if you don't have your shots - definately get it. It's better to be safe than sorry! Courtney they only provide Hep B and Hep c in our school systems, at least in Ontario, better check with you doctor. I just had all 7 of us vaccinated, a couple of weeks ago. I was also under the impression my kids were covered but I was wrong, good thing I asked, I phoned health Canada, then doubled checked with my doctor, I was told, nope the school does not cover them, they had not had the hep A shots. It is also not covered unless your private ins. covers it. Please check Courtney I would hate to think you thought you had protection and actually didn't. Kelly` Kelly~

Quote: Originally Posted by Just Martha Coming up with $1000 CAN be hard, you guys. You may not know if these people live pay check to pay check. You dont know how many bills they have. You really just dont know. We have switched locations several times to try and save money for our guests. When it comes down to it, we are going to probably dish out a lot of money to help them... You just never know what people's finances are REALLY like. These are people with 2600 square foot homes, and good jobs, and they tavel back and forth to jamaica 2 or 3 times a year. His aunt took off for Jamaica this week, how about paying for the trip you committed to instead of going to Jamaica. His sister is single and lives at home and has a good full time job. His mother also has a good job and her house is paid for. I am not talking about people who if they had put an effort in couldn't have come up with the money. We also thought Jamaica would have been good to get married they could have stayed with family, but they talked us out of it, because they wanted to go to the DR. They had over a year. I am a stay at home mom of 5 kids, so I know all about the value of a dollar, but when I give my word, other then some major event (and there isn't any), I follow through with it. I am leaving in 6 weeks, it's not like they gave any warning that there would be a problem. I would never push people to spend money they don't have, it just seems to me they didn't care enough to bother saving for it. Kelly~

Quote: Originally Posted by GalitInNY My only advice is not to put too much pressure on Everton. I am sure he is painfully aware that it is his family causing the problem and not anyone else - that has to be so hard for him... I know that they will lose their deposits on Thursday, but are they going to be locked out of the hotel too? I guess what I am trying to figure out is if they can still try to come up with the money and book airfare and accomodations at a higher cost later on. It definitely sucks for them, but that is what they get for procrastinating I am trying to not be hard on Everton, but god if he doesn't talk to them, who will. I would never say anything or I may not have a relationship with his family when all is said and done. I guess they could try a last minute deal, but it is getting to be last minute, and I hate late surprises, I am a planner and a control freak, and I am trying to be relaxed aboout this wedding, but come on, I feel like if they couldn't get the money together with a year's notice to hell with them! I want to confirm my dinner with the wc, and my welcome reception. They don't understand how much time and thought goes into planning a dw, I think people just assume we are going away and there is not much to do, if they show up great, if not oh well! I don't think they truly think of it as a wedding, with a reception, dance, and everything that goes along with a " at home wedding". Us girls put more thought into our guests then most at home wedding brides, simply because we are appreciative that people are travelling so far to be with us, well it would be nice to feel a little of that love back! Wouldn't it girls!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by MikkiStreak What is Everton's position/stand point on this issue? Is he aware they are backing out? How does he think you both should proceed? Everton tries to make excuses for his family, they have always been a hot topic for us, they have never really accepted me, or Liam. We argued last night because he barely said anything to them, I think they should be told how hurtful this is to us, I would certainly tell my family if it was the other way around. I do know he is hurting though, so getting mad at him I guess won't really help, but I am pissed and he is an easy target, since he won't let me yell at his mom. What is with men and their mothers, they always act like they couldn't possibly call them on any of their bs, where as girls usually have it out with their mom's, and solutions are found. God I hope to never be that mom, when my boys grow up! Kelly~

Quote: Originally Posted by Julesr Sorry, but that was too nice of you. It is YOUR wedding, not their vacation. I wish you had asked us before you changed locations, we all would have told you HELL NO! Your FH should bring that up when he talks to him mom, you changed for THEM, they better get their asses there. I hadn't discovered you girls yet, wish I had, I would have done alot of things differently!!! I thought having our loved ones around us was more important than location, what a joke, unfortunately they don't feel the same way, live and learn, lesson to other dw brides, think of yourselves, because no one else will!