Jill...in your situation, any of these would be good for you considering that you think you might be under the 20 person Max. With ours, we are going to have to pay the cost for each cocktail reception and dinner for anyone over the total # of 20. IT ALL ADDS UP! (we will be having around 40 people min. so far)
Not to mention, The bigger the package, the more stuff that we will not be using, but already in the price of the package. (we will not be needing a minister, cake, etc.)
I actually tried to to the al alcarte way, and it almost seemed cheaper to do the package instead. Once you add in the sound system and dance floor and stuff.....
Hope I didn't confuse you!
Leigh