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Quote: Originally Posted by mexicomelissa My mom wore something she already had in the closet - she's super stylish (my sister and I steal HER clothes ) so I had no problem letting her do her own thing. I wanted her to buy somethign new just so she'd have something new...I even offered to buy something for her, but she insisted on wearing the top and skirt she already had. Whatever floats her boat She looked great! I love her top and skirt. It is very elegant.

Quote: Originally Posted by KellyandMatt08 I love that wording. I'm thinking of using ecofetti, I figure its cheaper then flowers and comes in lots of pretty colors and no worries afterwards. I love the idea of ecofetti! I have to see if they can ship in 2 weeks. Thanks!!

Thank you for all of your sympathy and advice. I think I will be the bigger person and let her do the unity candle along with all of the other guests so everyone's well wishes can go into it. I will have about 14 people there so it will be small. But I swear, if she starts her crap , I am going to scream on her and truly earn the BRIDEZILLA title.

I think she has 3 big problems. One is that she hates my fiances bio mom and resents that she is involved in my FI life now. A little background, my fiances dad left his my fiances bio mom to be with my fiances step mother. So there is really bad history that I have nothing to do with. The second issue is she keeps hinting that I forced or coerced my fiance into marrying me. Before me, my fiance lived at home with stepmother and dad from 11 years old even through undergrad. So his stepmother called on him to do EVERYTHING becaue his dad was never around because of work or because he belongs to alot of community organizations. My fiance kind of didn't tell his family that he and I were moving in together and just did it. They dissaproved and were pissed off. His older step sister who is 32 still lives at home with with them with 2 kids. His step cousin who is 33 still lives at home with them. My fi brother who is 27 also still lives at home with them and is not working. So my fi's stepmother and dad are used to telling grown people what to do and expect them to give a sh&&t. That all changed when my Fi and I moved in together because they could not control him anymore and that pisses his stepmother off! She wants to control the wedding, who we use as a travel agent, the guest list etc. We first used the travel agent she recommeded, but the lady sucked, so we got our own, and his step mother flat out said she was not going to call at all which hurt my FI and drove him even closer to his bio mom. His stepmom did not know that bio mom had entered the picture and it came up when she was being a Biatch and she hit the roof. So she has had out for me ever since. Lastly, she wants to bad to have a say in the wedding and control it and get recognition from it and I have given her zero opportunity because she would try to take over and I don't need the drama. I thought it would ease up now because her other daughter who is not living at home just got engaged last month. But the step mom wants to hone into my wedding because everyone at my childhood chuch (where she and fi's dad attend also) is talking about it and is excited. So she wants some sort of recognition like she actually helped do something or is supportive. And the last "mistake" I made was that I introduced her to my friend during my shower as my fi stepmother. She actually also said during the toast in addition to the other negative thing, that she does not believe in the word step mother and she is his mom. Excuse me, now I have to reinvent the english language for her crazy arse. If she had acted like a mother this whole time and not a crazy woman, then I would have introduced her as a mother. ok, sorry this is so long.

Quote: Originally Posted by JessicaLovesBrian I agree about letting FI decide. I can definitely understand why you'd want to exclude her... or accidentally light her hair on fire during the unity candle ceremony (oops, did I say that?!?). But despite her b*tchiness, she has been in FI's life since he was 11 and I think it'd be rude to leave her out no matter how much you want to. I say just keep things as planned. I really can't believe she had the nerve to say something like that at your shower. That's totally rude and probably awkward. I would have had to fight back the desire to kick her in the shins! Good luck with that <3 Light her hair on fire...too funny!! Yes the shin thing did cross my mind. I really don't think I will be able to be the bigger person if she says something stupid at the wedding.

Quote: Originally Posted by akh that's exactly what i was thinking, what does your FI want? It seems like this is something that he should really decide. though i am with you - i wouldn't want to give her the honor of being part of the ceremony after acting like that - but she is family, and you don't want to stoop to her level. You are all right. My fiance is on the fence about it. He is tired of her issues, but is not as pissed off as I am right now. I guess it would be stooping to her level to be petty. But it is so sad that I don't even feel like hugging her because her vibe towards me is really negative energy. I really sound paranoid, but she was staring at me all throughout my shower with this evil look on her face and has already stated that they will not be helping at all with our AHR/crab crack because her daughter decided after we announced the date for our AHR that she will be having her son's birthday party on the same day and my fiance's dad pretty much has to choose where he is going to be. (it will be very hard for him to go to both because our ahr will be very far away from where the other party will be)

I need your thoughts. My fi's parents got divorced when he was 11 and he moved in with his father and stepmother. He and his bio mother did not really talk to much after that until about 2 years ago. They are now very close. My Fi bio mother has been very supportive and helpful about the wedding. His stepmother has been a complete bi%$^ch . She has done various things to make things very unpleasant for both of us. She went as far to say at my shower during toasting time that it took me 4 years to basically "convince" my fiance to marry me which was untrue because he wanted to be married before I even did. She is just a huge ball of negativitey and I truly can't stand to deal with her anymore after her little stunt yesterday. SO here is my question... for the unity candle ceremony, I orginally was going to include her in lighting the candles with my mom and my FI bio mom. Now I really don't want her near the candle, much less light the candle because she continues to be negative and I don't believe she wishes us well at all. Would it be mean spirited of me to exclude her from the unity candle ceremony and have her do something else? I truly am tired of catering to her when she continuously and blantely disrespects me. What do you think?

That is a fun idea, but we will only have the photog for the ceremony. I would probably use a different dress to trash though because I want to save my dress for sentimental reasons.

I am in the process of doing premarital counseling and I was suprised how helpful it has been. I orginally didn't think it was necessary because my FI and I have been together for 6 years, but it has helped us look at things from a different angle and also helped us deal with the crazy behavior of our family towards the wedding.

Thank you for sharing all of your MOB dress ideas. I am glad to know that I am not the only one who will be gently suggesting an outfit

Quote: Originally Posted by LAUREN Anyone else disapointed with there fans from OTC? I got mine recently and some were half the size of the others! I am trying to decide if I should use them? I just got my fans from OTC and they were all smaller than I expected.

Quote: Originally Posted by hln321 this isn't the same....but I was bored & thought I'd try! You are amazing!! Thanks so much!!

Will your mom be wearing something special for your wedding? Is she picking her own dress, or are you gently suggesting some opitons? I am picking out my mom's dress because she is not to into shopping. I was curious to see what dresses other people's moms were wearing. I was thinking of this dress for my mom. It is from nordstroms.com. Cachet Shantung Tank Dress & Jacket - - Nordstrom.com

My bridesmaids will be wearing dresses from ariadress.com and corenmoore.com. I was not able to upload the pictures.

Here it is

Does anyone know how to fix a monogram? I bought it a while ago and I can't remember where I got it from. It is to blurry right now and I want to use it on my programs. It appears fine on screen, but it is blurry when I print it out. Something to do with pixels or something maybe

I also found these on ebay for $1.69 each plus $4.05 combined shipping. eBay: Silver Double Heart Hearts Wedding Place Card Holders (item 330108231500 end time Apr-17-07 16:58:28 PDT)

I also found some more cute table number stands on ebay. They are pretty affordable. You can buy them individually for about $2 if you contact the seller. eBay Store - The Funky Shack: Art, Antiques, Shabby

Quote: Originally Posted by NABUMBAH I finally uploaded a couple of pics that my friend took. here are our bags & their contents. I bought the bags wholesale from a friend - they were around $2.25 each. they were nice and big and I saw people carrying them around all weekend. We also ordered our koozies from her.. pics of them to follow. The mini meds were also purchased whsle and included - aleve, asprin, pepto, immodium, dramamine, this "sexual stimulant" stuff (for fun!) and some energy shooters - also for fun. We also bought some sunscreeen wholesale. If anyone needs any I think we had about 20 extra tubes leftover. I'll be looking to sell them once I get my act together. Food-wise we bought almost everything from Costco. We included letters and some maps that we picked up from a kiosk our first day in town. I think that the cost per bag was around $10? maybe more... we kind of lost track. Ya'll know how that goes I love the koozies. They are so cute.

Both are wonderful!! Thank you so much for finding these!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Tait Weddings We had a wine ceremony. We chose a 2 handled silver cup which is called a loving cup to share the wine from. The loving cup has various historial meanings but it mostly for the B&G to share their first drink together and symbolizes the joining of 2 families. Our officiant used a modified version of the text below. We chose to do this ceremony because we are both wine lovers, and wine was a theme of our wedding and we had corks for placecard holders etc. It is nice that we now have an engraved silver wine cup that we will pass on to our children. Text: "The years of life are as a cup of wine poured out for you to drink. This Loving Cup contains within it a wine with certain properties that are sweet and symbolic of happiness, joy, hope, peace, love and delight. This same wine also holds some bitter properties that are symbolic of disappointment, sorrow, grief, despair, and life's trials and tribulations. Together the sweet and the bitter represent "Love's Journey" and all of the experiences that are a natural part of it. For all who share the wine from this Loving Cup, so may you share all things from this day on with love and understanding. Those who drink deeply from the Loving Cup with an open heart and willing spirit, invite the full range of challenges and experiences into their being for themselves and the Bride and Groom. Minister pours wine into the Loving Cup and holds it up. This cup of wine is symbolic of the cup of life. As you all share the wine from the Loving Cup, you undertake to share all that the future may bring. It represents the blessing given and passed on to each participant in this ceremony. All the sweetness life's cup may hold for each of you will be the sweeter because you drink it together. Whatever drops of bitterness it may contain will be less bitter because you share them. Drink now, and may the cup of your lives be sweet and full to running over." Thanks so much . I think I may do the wine ceremony .

Thanks so much!

I had the same question. I never knew such a ceremony existed. I saw a bride that did it and it made me curious. Here is what I found. Sample Wedding Ceremony Information The wine ceremony is #5. I think there are different variations though.

I am very curious about the wine ceremony. I have not heard of it until today. I am curious to know if anybody is doing it.

Quote: Originally Posted by akh here are some ... these sites had a few options! place card holders : Sea Shell Photo or Placecard Holders - Set of 12 - 3103119 place card holders : 4 7/8†Shell Design Placecard Holders – set of 12 - 5340 place card holders : Palm Tree Place Card Holder - Set of 12 - 7743 place card holders : Chrome Shell Placecard Holder - Set of 6 - 1212 Place Card Holders *'Seaside' Sand and Shell Placecard Holder Place Card Holders *Beachcombers Theme Place Card Holders I really love the first ones!! Thanks so much!