Honoring those that have passed away

[weddingaway]

Hey, everyone!

 

I don't mean to bum anyone out, but I was hoping for some ideas/suggestions.  Here is the situation:

 

A couple of years ago, my fiance's very best, lifelong friend died in a car crash.  He definitely would have been best man.  We were all close (we were even roommates for 6 months) and I know that he will be in both of our thoughts on the big day.

 

Here's my question:

 

What's a nice way to honor/incorporate him in the ceremony without bringing down the mood too much? 

 

I have never seen this done so I have no examples to follow.

 

Thanks, in advance!

[jszy10]

Could you set up a small table with a picture and a sign that says something about "remembering a lost friend on this important day" ?  I see a lot of people do this at their receptions for lost loved ones.  My girlfriend even lit a candle next to the picture frame in rememberance.

[MrsHemmings]

I will be something like this to honor my mom who dies when I was just one and for my FI brother who recently passed. take a look at my inspiration pictures

 

 

I found many pictures online, search "in memory candle" or "in memory wedding"

 

 

I am going to do a candle of some sort with framed pictues.

 

At the ceremony we are also going to place single roses on two chairs that will be left empty

 

this is really important to us so we may be going a bit overboard...

 

hope this helps

[perry1217]

Hey there!  That's so thoughtful that you're planning to incorporate an honor to his memory.  I'm sure your FI will be so grateful   One thing that I saw a DW bride do is actually reserve a chair for that person in the front row, with a sign indicating that it's in that person's honor.  I'll be doing something similar for my wedding.; my FI lost his younger sister 10 years ago.

[mmcst38]

I like the reserving a chair in memoriam idea

[acireta]

We're reserving a chair for my dad. I'm getting him the same boutonniere as the groomsmen also to place on the chair when I walk down the aisle.

 

oh lord, must. not. cry. at work.

[LisaMatterni]

On my wedding, I've also reserving a chair and a table for our friend who had passed away. We didn't display the pictures. We just put scented candles on the table with flowers and a note for our friend. 

[adales]

I was very close with my grandpa and he died so I am doing a small either tile with his picture or frame with his picture and attching it to my bouquet.  I have found great things on etsy.

[nadennec]

I love this idea. Where did you find the candles? Also, where are you placing the candles? On a separate table at the reception?

 

Originally Posted by vcwedding2011 

I will be something like this to honor my mom who dies when I was just one and for my FI brother who recently passed. take a look at my inspiration pictures

 

 

I found many pictures online, search "in memory candle" or "in memory wedding"

 

 

I am going to do a candle of some sort with framed pictues.

 

At the ceremony we are also going to place single roses on two chairs that will be left empty

 

this is really important to us so we may be going a bit overboard...

 

hope this helps

[IrishgirlinNY]

My mother passed away Aug 30, 2009.  I want to do everything I can to honor her at our wedding and my fiance just didn't want to have it depressing. It is very hard to get married without your mom or someone that was so special to you there and here are some things I am doing to have her there.

~ MyJeanM.com- Great site with some items to honor someone at the ceremony.  I bought the petite memorial vase with her name engraved with the floating candle. Our centerpieces are floating candles, so this will be at the head of our table. The site also has a memorial frame for your bouquet. They are both beautiful items in person.

~ I am also reserving the chair next to my dad and putting the flowers that she would have worn on the chair.

~ I am walking down the aisle to my parents wedding song, they would have been married 36 years this past December

~ I am wearing her wedding dress

 

There are so many ways, it just has to be fitting to you and your fiance