Freaking out....just a bit.....

[trisha0612]

Thank you girls so much for your support. I have a gyn appointment Wednesday to hopefully begin the process of sorting things out. Based on what my sister figured out (she says you count 14 days from the 1st day of your last period to get a rough estimate of how far along you are) I'm literally like 16-17 days. If it wasn't for you girls I would have never went and bought the test when I did. I would have waited till after Christmas (b/c I'm a chicken shit) and I would have no idea what I would do then!

I'm on an emotional rollercoaster. FI and I keep arguing b/c one minute I'm okay, the next a mess..he's frustrated b/c he feels helpless..I'm frustrated b/c well.....EVERYTHING. It just doesn't feel fair...not my situation but I think about all of the women who try and try and try and nothing happens, and then someone like me who was so naive for 3 weeks ends up in this situation! What is up with that I've been religious my whole life, and rarely do I question the almighty/greater good whomever anyone believes in but this is definately a time I do....why can't it just be like the points we earn on here and I can just donate?? I'm in a bad place right now and need to really think.

Thank you so much again, you have no idea how supportive you girls have been and how much that really helps when I feel completely alone in this house....

[StephanieMN]

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry you are stressed about the situation. Sometimes things happen in our life when we are not ready for them. I hope you find peace in your heart with whatever choice you make.

 

MASSIVE HUGS TO YOU!!

[Christine]

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Originally Posted by trisha0612 Thank you girls so much for your support. I have a gyn appointment Wednesday to hopefully begin the process of sorting things out. Based on what my sister figured out (she says you count 14 days from the 1st day of your last period to get a rough estimate of how far along you are) I'm literally like 16-17 days. If it wasn't for you girls I would have never went and bought the test when I did. I would have waited till after Christmas (b/c I'm a chicken shit) and I would have no idea what I would do then! I'm on an emotional rollercoaster. FI and I keep arguing b/c one minute I'm okay, the next a mess..he's frustrated b/c he feels helpless..I'm frustrated b/c well.....EVERYTHING. It just doesn't feel fair...not my situation but I think about all of the women who try and try and try and nothing happens, and then someone like me who was so naive for 3 weeks ends up in this situation! What is up with that I've been religious my whole life, and rarely do I question the almighty/greater good whomever anyone believes in but this is definately a time I do....why can't it just be like the points we earn on here and I can just donate?? I'm in a bad place right now and need to really think. Thank you so much again, you have no idea how supportive you girls have been and how much that really helps when I feel completely alone in this house....

those 14 days after your period are actually considered weeks 1 & 2 of the 40 weeks of pregnancy, for example I am almost 12 weeks along, but the baby has actually only been alive for 10 weeks. Does that make sense. So you are actually about 5 weeks pregnant.
I know this is incredibly scary and as many girls have said we are here for you so please feel free to let it out, and the ups and downs are partly the hormones, I literally cry at the drop of a hat right now. My DH thinks I am crazy also.

[Helen_S81]

I just wanted to say that my thoughts are with you as you are faced with what will probably be the hardest decision of your life.

[starchild]

Oh I wish I could wave a wand in your direction....sorry you are faced with this choice right now. Kudos to you for being mature and responsible enough to consider the situation from many angles.

 

About the God/greater power thing, it does seem unfair that some want and others get. But everyone's road is different in life, and you may not be able to change fate but you can alter it's course. Like how a woman "can't" have children but does via a surrogate, a woman who may not want to be pregnant has alternatives. There are options for everyone's situations and if they didn't come from God, then who? (assuming you believe in God)

 

IMO if you're meant to have children you will, whether you choose to do it now or years from now. Think it through and don't do anything because you think you are "supposed" to, that's the worst reason to do something.

 

If you can I would refrain from telling too many people you know in "real" life. If they don't agree with your decision to have or not have the child it can complicate everything and make it even harder for you. And their opinions don't matter anyway, it's all about you two.

 

If you have the baby things will work out and if you don't they will still work out....this I know for certain. Life goes on and whatever decision you make is the one you were supposed to. Don't feel alone and PM me if I can help, best wishes )

[Copita]

Hey Trisha,

 

My thoughts and prayers are definitely with ya during this difficult time.

Only you can make the right decision for you but whatever you decide, will be the best decision.

[fogdog]

wishing you strength and peace...

[TATrisha]

I'm really sorry this is happening to you at this time Trisha. Although some day you may look back and say it's a blessing in disquise it sure doesn't seem like it now. I hope you two really think hard and make the best decision you can based on what you two want in life.

Best wishes and keep us informed. We will support you no matter what.

[Chiquita]

Oh Trisha.. so sorry you are going through this.. you know we will all be here for you whatever you decide!

[boscobel]

Trisha - I am so sorry for you. I don't have much wisdom to offer, except that I think the girls have given some great advice. I have to second what Jamy said though, about not telling too many people in your real life, b/c people have strong opinions and won't always be understanding. I wish I could make you feel better!