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#1 jeffandrobyn

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Posted 03 November 2014 - 09:14 AM

I was wondering how many of you have invited/will invite your future sister-in-law(s) to your bachelorette party. I felt obligated to since they're both in my bridal party and we are within a few years of each other, but I really don't like the idea of extra eyes on me in a bar. To those who are in a similar situation, how are you dealing with it? 

 

 



#2 calgarybride2015

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Posted 03 November 2014 - 09:56 AM

Mine is invited and she also came dress shopping with me! She's not a party animal like me (I drink more than her) but she's not judgmental of it. It's a party to PARTY so I think you are safe!

That said, personally for me, if they are in your bridal party they should be invited. I think I'd be offended if someone asked me to be in their bridal party but didn't want me at all events. I thought that was a given for bridal party members.

Just something to think about :) good luck.


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#3 puravida2015

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Posted 03 November 2014 - 10:30 AM

I guess I don't understand why they wouldn't be invited. Unless they're underage and unable to attend some adult events they should be invited/included in all of the events (because they're part of the bridal party).


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#4 kmk2016

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Posted 03 November 2014 - 04:25 PM

Yeah not sure why they wouldn't be invited... ESPECIALLY if part of your bridal party- but even if not, I would never think of not inviting them! Is there something specific that has your troubled about their attending? Is there a reason the "extra eyes on you" will make you uncomfortable? I think it would be really sad for them if they learned you had a party and didn't invite them!

#5 TinkerSofi

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Posted 04 November 2014 - 11:19 AM

I think they should be invited. I don't see the big deal about them being at the bar with you. They know you're going to drink and probably so will they. I don't think you'd do something that you wouldn't do if your fiancé was there so then it won't be a problem having them around. My sisters in law are Jehovah Witnesses so they're quite conservative and they don't go to clubs or drink. I doubt they'll be there but I'm inviting them anyway. Who knows, they might surprise me and come out


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#6 Kayla88

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Posted 04 November 2014 - 09:17 PM

If I was lucky enough to have a sister in law I would defiantly ask her to attend especially if she was in the wedding.

#7 veryvalentine

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Posted 05 November 2014 - 12:20 PM

I agree!  I don't think there is any way around it. You might feel more comfortable without that sense that somebody is watching you.  people should understand that it's a bachelorette party and not to take things too seriously.  

 

that being said, I'm keeping mine on the conservative side because the last thing I want are issues or gossips.



 
 
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#8 tygrrlily

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Posted 05 November 2014 - 03:30 PM

My FI has no sisters, so I fortunately didn't have to do that.  I did invite some of my fiance's friend's wives to be polite (and we have become friends), but I will admit I think I had a LOT more fun because they didn't come haha.. Not that I did anything at all and not that we aren't friendly, but I did enjoy being with my girifriends


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#9 jeffandrobyn

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Posted 06 November 2014 - 06:44 AM

@kmk2016

 

They were invited from the get-go, I'm just not keen on having them there. One is FI's sister, and one is FI's sister in law. I didn't really want his sis in law in the BP, but it was the right thing to do for a number of reasons so I just went with it. But her attitude stinks, so much to the point that FI said that if I wanted to dis-invite her he would totally understand (I didn't do it). And it is doubtful that I'll ever have a genuine friendship with his sister unfortunately, which is really a shame because I like her a lot, but his sis in law is the cause of that. The three of us get along just fine and we're friendly when we're all together, but we're not friends. 

 

Plus I can't get something out of my head that his sis in law said. This is a second marriage for me and a first for my FI. So sis in law said (right in front of me when a convo about her friend was happening) is that 'people don't deserve to be celebrated when it's a second time around.' Totally fine if she feels that way, but saying it in front of me got me all messed up. 



#10 veryvalentine

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Posted 06 November 2014 - 06:51 AM

@jeffandrobyn

 

You know what, this is your wedding, your celebration, do what feel best for you.  If you will have more fun with just your friends then keep your party small.  You mentioned that they don't really party anyway so maybe they won't even come.

Clearly she doesn't mind her mouth or your feelings, so really why ruin  your night. 

 

A second marriage most definitely deserves to be celebrated!! 



 
 
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