I always knew we would have an at home reception, as we have a large Ukrainian family and I am my dad's only daughter, however we have been being pressured to have it be this formal, grand event to the point where my mother is more excited for the AHR then she is Mexico, as she didn't "plan Mexico" and it was our choice to get married in Mexico, not theirs. I have already had to tell them to tone it down, no we are not having speeches, no we are not having a head table and no, we are not having a cappuccino bar. They are kind enough to be footing the bill for it because in their words, not ours they "want to show us off" (aka throw a party for their friends and we are just an excuse for it.. I mean that in a loving way too) but some of the stuff is getting ridiculous. My parents are trying to bribe me now, saying if they help pay for my alterations, I will have to wear my dress again 6 MONTHS LATER.
Didn't mean to turn that into a rant, sorry less than two months to go here
All I am trying to say is put your foot down and be firm.
If you don't want one, they don't have one. If you want one but want it to me low key, make that known.