I don't know exactly what board was right to post this on, but I am hitting a stage of the planning (wedding is Sept '13) where I am second-guessing my decision to have a destination wedding. I think I am fearing all my hard work and money spent will be for nothing if people don't show up, and we will sort of feel silly for our own wedding. It is a major fear for me, and I think it is for my fiance without him directly wanting to admit it to me for fear I will be upset or worried. I just sense something off during the planning in the last month. I am wishing we would have just bit the financial bullet a little more and planned it at home.
Our reasons for going away were for him, mostly financial (he believed it would be less expensive and an easy way to cut our guest list from 250+ and $60 a plate at home, to 50 or 60 without offending anyone). I wanted to do something different and unique and beautiful but also with people closest to us.
We are planning this in the Outer Banks, and rented a nice beach house to have a private party at. I hired a coordinator but she is limitedly of any help and my mom and I have done 99% of the work and details ourselves from about 500 miles away.
I just wondered if anyone else has felt this way mid-way thru planning or anytime where they second guessed their decision - maybe you weren't getting the response you hoped for, the RSVPs or people cancelled. I just don't want my fiance to feel like we went to all this work and trouble and nobody shows! Its hard not to go to all the work and trouble if people say they are coming, and it is your wedding after all... although you never know if they will actually make it there. How did you deal with any stress or worry like this throughout, and how did it end up going after all? -- or are you dealing with this now?
I feel like we cant really change anything some people have booked beach houses around us already, and my mom has already paid for our reception house.