Originally Posted by JMK923
Hi ladies! This forum has so much great information about AHR, I'm so glad I found this! We are in the process of planning a casual AHR down at the shore, 3 months after we return from our DW - we're getting married February 2014 in Mexico and are hoping to have the AHR in June in New Jersey. We are looking into various restaurants for pricing on an open bar for a few hours and hor d'oeuvres or a small buffet. However, I'm still confused how to go about inviting guests to the AHR - which is really just a casual party for everyone who coudn't make it to the DW that we wish could have been there. We are inviting all our close friends and family to the DW which is 190 people. So, I guess my question is when sending out the formal invitations to the DW, do I give guests the option to choose between attending the DW or AHR DW? Would doing this cause confusion? Or, do I send out the invitations to the DW first and then later send out invitations to the AHR? Do I invite everyone that was invited to the DW to the AHR, or only those that couldn't make the DW (since I'm pretty much having it for those people)? Sorry this is so long, I'm just at a loss on the proper way to handle this Thanks!!
We thought about this and came to the conclusion that if you present the AHR as an option, people will figure, why spend the money to travel? We sent out our wedding invites without telling anyone about the AHR option, also because quite frankly we weren't even sure we were having one when we sent out the invites haha and then we are sending separate inexpensive invites for the AHR. The invites for the AHR are from Wedding Paper Divas- and we actually shopped their engagement/ shower invites instead of actual wedding invites because they can be as cheap as $0.69 per invite depending on the design for engagement/ shower invites! Can't beat that! I just think people will misinterpret the AHR as a separate reception and figure it is interchangeable with the wedding. Your real wedding is in Mexico, so you want people to go to that if they can. If they regrettably cannot, then they can go to the AHR but if you present the option its either confusing or just an easy way out for people to not attend your actual wedding.