Hello Forum Friends,
I know there are some At Home Reception (AHR) threads out there but I didn't spot anything recent. I wanted to know what 2013 brides were doing for their AHR's and use this space to ask questions about proper AHR etiquette and share pics and ideas.
I always wanted an AHR but my fiance fought me tooth and nail, saying the point of a destination wedding was to save money. He rationalized- if we can afford an AHR why not just have that be our wedding?
My reasoning was that I would compromise heavily for an AHR knowing it wasn't truly my wedding. I'd accept a brunch option, a smaller or non-traditional venue (like a restaurant), a smaller guest count, less decor- things I would not be willing to compromise for a full wedding. When we were planning our Stateside wedding- we locked a contract with a DJ and paid a $1500 non-refundable deposit. So I have a DJ I paid half for- and no use for him- why not make him work?
So here are my questions:
1) Is it tacky to just have a wine and beer option (which is significantly cheaper) as opposed to an open bar?
2) What do ladies think about holding an AHR on a non-traditional day (Sunday as opposed to Saturday)
3) Do you think guests expect the same thing at an AHR that they expect at a full blown wedding reception? How do you clarify to people that it is not the same as a full blown wedding- but maybe close to it in terms of dress etc.?
4) Are any 2013 brides planning to have an AHR that includes a ceremony? Which would really mean you're having two weddings (if you want to get technical)... I think that's pushing it but many venues include the ceremony space free of charge on-site. Would you use it if it were included?
I might win this AHR argument with the fiance because my MOH and mother were splitting the cost of the venue for my bridal shower. I don't want a bridal shower. I suggested an AHR would be a better use of funds- especially because they would cost about the same. All the venues they were considering for my bridal showers are places I would host an AHR. And of course I wouldn't let them pay for it alone!
Some of my close friends say to forego an AHR and go for broke in DR instead (think hire fire-dancers, a cake upgrade, a welcome reception or extra extravagances to make the wedding more memorable)
Sorry for the long post! I am genuinely curious to hear other brides' thoughts, feedback and ideas. So ladies...
To AHR or not?- that is the question.