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#21 FuturemrsD

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    Posted 04 July 2012 - 07:32 AM

    I have to say I totally agree with the comments on here, surely your finance's priorities should be making you happy, not his pals!

     

    From personal experience; my sister recently got married, she had seven bridesmaids. By the day of the wedding she regretted picking most of them, but she didn't let that ruin her day.

     

    It wouldn't bother me whether I had any bridesmaids or not, the day should be about the bride & groom and not making other people happy. Someone once told me, If a bride can't be selfish on her wedding day, when can she be? I agree Lol. Are there any children in the family that are attending? Couldn't you just have a flower girl, that wouldn't be so awkward?

     

    You only get married once, right? So go with your heart. 



    #22 georgiasl

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      Posted 04 July 2012 - 07:51 AM

      We are not having anyone in the wedding party. We are having all of our really close family and friends there. I have never enjoyed the experience of being a bridesmaid so I did not want to inflict that on anyone else. I just want everyone who is important to be to be there to celebrate the day with me.



      #23 2bmrstremblay

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        Posted 04 July 2012 - 08:18 AM

        Originally Posted by georgiasl 

        We are not having anyone in the wedding party. We are having all of our really close family and friends there. I have never enjoyed the experience of being a bridesmaid so I did not want to inflict that on anyone else. I just want everyone who is important to be to be there to celebrate the day with me.

        This is a nice way of doing it although I see the merits to having a MOH or a BM that will be able to help you get dressed and ready on the morning of the wedding, however if you have some other close family or friend they don't really need a title in order to help.

         

        Good luck ladies and happy planning!



        #24 pacificgirl

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          Posted 05 July 2012 - 04:44 PM

          Originally Posted by LTLFAITHY 

          I don't mean to sound like a "B" here, but I don't understand why you FI is so dead-set on having groomsmen. This wedding is about the two of you, not him and his buddies. It's great that he suggested some girls to be your bridesmaids, but do you REALLY want some girls that you barely know standing beside you when you get married? Sorry if I sound mean, but I think he is being kind of selfish about this.......

          Yeah I have to agree with this as well. We aren't having a bridal party because the wedding is about us, not who is standing with us. You need to chat with him. It sounds pretty selfish that he "needs" the guys up there with him and you aren't able to have your ladies with you. Why doesn't he have honorary groomsmen? List them in the program, but they sit with everyone else. 

          Bottom line, you need to figure out why he feels this way and express to him how much it hurts you. 



          #25 sosodj

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            Posted 07 July 2012 - 05:44 PM

            i think that if your FI really doesn't let go if the idea, i think that your mum would be great and just have the wedding party sit with the other guests



            #26 Masha

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              Posted 24 July 2012 - 05:17 AM

              I like the idea of mom/bridesmaid as well. After long discussions, my fiance is ok now with having his groomsmen sit with the guests he only wants one best man, so it might work out. 



              #27 Branya2012

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                Posted 24 July 2012 - 12:18 PM

                Glad to hear you were able to compromise!


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                #28 tyrebride2b2013

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                  Posted 02 August 2012 - 05:18 AM

                  glad things are working out for you that was a sticky situation. I hope someone from your family in europe is able to come as well. when is your wedding? there is no time to save on a payment plan?

                  #29 elissae

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                  Posted 03 August 2012 - 12:29 PM

                  I think having your Mom is a GREAT IDEA!!!

                   

                  We are not having a wedding party...my Mom is my MOH & my FI's son is going to be his BM.  Actually, it was my FI's idea...he did not want groomsmen (his 2nd wedding) and I was relieved.  We all know being in a wedding is an added expense...and adding destination to the mix makes for more $$ spent.

                   

                  It also takes the pressure off choosing a Maid/Matron of Honor between close friends...no feelings hurt.. xoxo

                   

                  I hope it all works out for you.


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                  #30 cheflady

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                    Posted 10 August 2012 - 06:19 AM

                    My sister is my only BM.






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