A couple of questions for those that have more etiquette sense than me....
1. We plan to have about 50-60 people at our destination wedding. The resort's tables seat 8, and they said 9 tables was about as many as I could have in the area where I would like our reception. So as to not make it so crowded, I would like to have less tables-- BUT then that means obviously I will have to make sure all of the tables are filled. We have a very diverse group coming so far-- a handful of my high school and college friends, a lot of his college friends, some of my work colleagues, some of his work colleagues, my mom, his parents, etc. I am not sure they all fit into nice groups to complete tables of 8, and I am worried about assigning seats because I do not want to offend anyone (i.e., who gets stuck at the "boring" table with my mom and his parents?). On the other hand, I do not want this awkward moment when people are rushing to get to certain tables and some people are left standing without knowing where to go. So, I am leaning towards doing assigned tables, but I wonder how you all are thinking about handling the mixing of groups. Or am I just overly concerned about something totally minor?
2. This is my second wedding, so my side of the bridal party is very small: my two best friends from childhood. My FI, on the other hand, has 8 groomsmen. I dont care about the uneven numbers, but I dont know what to do at the reception for dinner seating. If we put me and FI, and then my two BMs and their husbands, that is 6 of our 8 for the table. Is it rude to tell my FI to just pick 1 (with date) or 2 of his groomsmen to sit at our table? I feel like girls would be more offended if I stuck them at a differant table, especially since I only have 2 of them, but I also dont want to seperate them from their husbands, but I want to be fair and let FI have who he wants at the table... and so my dilema rages on in my head. I realize I am probably more stressed out about this than necessary and that FI does not even care about the "equality of the wedding party table," so maybe it is a stupid question. But I was just wondering whether any of you have similar issues or possible solutions.