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#31 Janet1480

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    Posted 08 March 2011 - 12:28 PM


    people are booking hotels and you havent booked a date??? That is just messed up! :(
     

    Originally Posted by mochamakes3 

    I would have been pleased if people that knew for sure there was no way would have returned our RSVPs. I don't think we have gotten any back from FFIL's family. But they have all apparently booked hotel rooms for our AHR. We haven't even picked a venue or date for that. I should have listened to FMIL and not even bothered with sending them invites instead of trying not to offend.



     


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    #32 CanadianLindsey

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      Posted 08 March 2011 - 12:39 PM

      Do people really think it's ok to just show up to your wedding with out telling you?

      Sorry, but I must agree with all the ladies.  It does sound a bit rude, or a bit pushy. We all know how you feel as most of us went or are going through it. We have set up a website on which I have provided all details and then once a week a do an update. If there are particular people I want to come, I've already talked to them; they know all the details.  You can't really make people rsvp, especially for a DW.  This is the harsh part of DW.  Keep in mind that a lot of people will wait till last minute to book hoping they'll get a 'last minute' sell out.  Some of my invited guests have told me they might 'surprise' us and just show up. I've included a note about element of surprise for a wedding on my website. Politely saying that I have to notify the resort's WC about number of people for my wedding etc etc. (I'm not a fan of surprises for something I'm putting a lot of effort planning).


      Don't stress over the RSVP. When people are ready to book they will.  Some people will not even tell you they are not coming.  My wedding is in Sept. I sent out the invites in January.  I didn't even bother with RSVP cards (I thought it was a huge waste of money and stamps). Since I did passport invites, I dedicated a whole page to Reservations and RSVP. Asked to be notified by phone, email, via website or in person by July 1st if they are coming. Gave my self 2 months to order more favours etc. 

       



       



      #33 Janet1480

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        Posted 08 March 2011 - 12:59 PM

        I Couldnt agree more! I think its crazy to think you can just show up

        Do people really think it's ok to just show up to your wedding with out telling you?

         DW or hometown wedding, that is just strange and inconsiderate! They must think they are really special poeple! LOL!  My motto...no rsvp=not a wedding guest! And only wedding guests get chairs, dinner, programs and favors!(because my resort needed to know our #'s months in advance so they could bring in chairs for the ceremony and so I could lock in the prices for dinner and cocktail hour)

         

        I would love to know what your note or your website said!

         

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        #34 mochamakes3

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          Posted 08 March 2011 - 01:29 PM


           

          Originally Posted by Janet1480 


          people are booking hotels and you havent booked a date??? That is just messed up! :(
           



           


          They haven't really booked anything. They just wanted other people to think that they were going. I joke to FI that maybe they are secretly planning on paying for the whole thing as a surprise gift.

           



          #35 wendyL77

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            Posted 08 March 2011 - 01:59 PM

            Love the post card and the wording. Very cute!!



            #36 Janet1480

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              Posted 08 March 2011 - 07:26 PM


              wouldnt that be awesome! I wish someone would pay for my wedding LOL
               

              Originally Posted by mochamakes3 


               


              They haven't really booked anything. They just wanted other people to think that they were going. I joke to FI that maybe they are secretly planning on paying for the whole thing as a surprise gift.

               



               


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              #37 Janet1480

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                Posted 08 March 2011 - 07:27 PM


                Thank you! I'm hoping the light heartedness and hopefully a little chuckle will get people to give us some sort of response just for the effort in sending a reminder :)
                 

                Originally Posted by wendyL77 

                Love the post card and the wording. Very cute!!



                 


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                #38 SeeFlowers

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                  Posted 08 March 2011 - 07:56 PM

                  Ooh i feel your pain on the lack of RSVPs!!!!  I'm getting married next month and after begging and pleading for RSVPs to be returned, I still got no response from probably a quarter of the people! urgh!


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                  #39 Janet1480

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                    Posted 09 March 2011 - 08:26 AM



                    Ooh i feel your pain on the lack of RSVPs!!!!  I'm getting married next month and after begging and pleading for RSVPs to be returned, I still got no response from probably a quarter of the people! urgh!



                     


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                    #40 mandys

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                      Posted 26 March 2011 - 10:16 AM

                      I think you should  just give your invitees a call a couple months before the trip. Personal interaction is always nice. The reminder postcard is not very pleasant.


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