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Is this rude? it sounds rude to me and i wrote it LOL

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I had asked for my RSVPs to be sent back this week by Wednesday and like 60% of people still have not replied. I might get a flood of mail by the end of the week but I am thinking I am still going to be missing a huge chunk. This is so frustrating. I dont have time to call everyone so i was thinking of sending a postcard out but want to know if this sounds rude.....comments?

 

This is the wording i came up with...

 

Friendly Reminder

 

We still have not received your RSVP for our wedding in October.

 

An RSVP postcard (with postage) was included in the mailing that we sent in January; please fill it out and drop it in the mail. You can also RSVP by e-mail at sampleemail@hotmail.com or give us a call 613-555-1234. We need to know your plans (whether or not you plan to attend) for planning purposes. If you are unsure at this time, please reply with a note to let us know so we can add you as a “maybe†but still account for you in our numbers. 

 

If you are planning to travel with us and will be using our travel agent, your initial deposits are due to our travel agent by March 31st 2011 to receive the early booking discount.

 

If we do not receive your RSVP by March 28th we will assume that you do not plan on coming.

  

If you have questions, feel free to contact us. Your response would be greatly appreciated

 

Thank you for your consideration!

 

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I personally used our wedding website and sent emails to our potential guests as a "friendly" reminder about the due dates for booking hotels.

 

I made it clear that I'm sending the emails and reminder "not as a pressure" to have them come to our wedding, but to let them know of future deadlines if they were planning to come.

 

Also, I included that if they were for sure not coming, to let me know because I won't include them in my reminders the future. That helped weed out a lot of friends/family that weren't intending on coming.

 

Since you asked for an opinion, I would suggest using a friendlier tone....it just seems very direct. That's just me and when I sent out my reminders I just wanted to know if they are planning or coming or not. But didn't use that language.

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WOW! That tone is way to harsh in MHO. I know its frustrating when people dont RSVP, but that is part of weddings. I also think that March is a little soon for an RSVP for an October wedding, again MHO. My wedding is in June and I dont anticipate a firm number until April or May, but that's something I will deal with because I know its not easy for people to 100% commit to something so expensive. Also, regular wedding usually have an RSVP about a month before a wedding. Wouldnt it be nice if all Brides could demand a head count 8 months in advance? I am sorry, but your tone is well.... yes... rude.... Sorry!

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Thats why i was asking :) thanks ladies.

 

I dont want to seem B&^%chy but its how i feel LOL BangHead.gif Maybe not a good idea to write these things when annoyed msnwink.gif

 

To be honest, i have no choice to ask so soon for the RSVP's...its not just for my own planning purposes. My TA has an early booking bonus set up and a block of rooms and seats on the plane and they require deposits by March 31st. Full payment must be received by July. when i looked around this seemed to be common....well around here anyway! If people dont know yet if they can come they will have to make other travel arrangements and may not get the cheaper rate we reserved. Thats totally okay with me too they just risk paying a lot more money.

 

Thanks for your opinion...i will try to find another way to get responses or just assume they arent coming and in my planning prepare an extra 10 of everything "just in case"

 

hulagirl132...I dont have everyone's email. Some dont even have email. They are living in the stone age still LOL wacko.gif

 

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If they miss the early booking deadline, they miss out on cheaper rates. Their bad. Don't stress about that!

 

I think you should make it a little more casual or conversational. Its very formal (and very well written) which might come off a bit harsh.

 

Off the top of my head, I think taking out these lines would change the tone of the whole piece:

"If we do not receive your RSVP by March 28th we will assume that you do not plan on coming."

"Your response would be greatly appreciated"

 

Maybe change "Thank you for your consideration!" to "We hope you can join us for our celebration in Paradise!" or something like that.

 

Good luck!! cheesy.gif

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Thanks...good suggestions.

 

I'm also considering a very simple postcard instead

 

friendly reminder on one side

 

and dont forget to RSVP with a reminder about the early booking bonus on the second side. I will just leave it at that....

 

plain and simple and then i wont insult anyone :)

Originally Posted by acireta View Post

If they miss the early booking deadline, they miss out on cheaper rates. Their bad. Don't stress about that!

 

I think you should make it a little more casual or conversational. Its very formal (and very well written) which might come off a bit harsh.

 

Off the top of my head, I think taking out these lines would change the tone of the whole piece:

"If we do not receive your RSVP by March 28th we will assume that you do not plan on coming."

"Your response would be greatly appreciated"

 

Maybe change "Thank you for your consideration!" to "We hope you can join us for our celebration in Paradise!" or something like that.

 

Good luck!! cheesy.gif



 

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I like this simple postcard idea! I just think a more casual tone would be better and not make you come off as confrontational. Definitely not the vibe you want to send to your guests who will be spending lots of time/money to support you!

 

Since you do have such an early booking deadline, I would say, yes send out some kind of reminder. But try to focus on and frame it in a way that you are trying to do them a favor by saving them money by getting their deposits down sooner than later. Good luck! I think every bride gets frustrated by this same situation at one point or another!! by b


 

Originally Posted by Janet1480 View Post

Thanks...good suggestions.

 

I'm also considering a very simple postcard instead

 

friendly reminder on one side

 

and dont forget to RSVP with a reminder about the early booking bonus on the second side. I will just leave it at that....

 

plain and simple and then i wont insult anyone :)



 



 

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Yes I second this part of the wording change! wink.gif Again, i understand your frustration!

 

Originally Posted by acireta View Post

If they miss the early booking deadline, they miss out on cheaper rates. Their bad. Don't stress about that!

 

I think you should make it a little more casual or conversational. Its very formal (and very well written) which might come off a bit harsh.

 

Off the top of my head, I think taking out these lines would change the tone of the whole piece:

"If we do not receive your RSVP by March 28th we will assume that you do not plan on coming."

"Your response would be greatly appreciated"

 

Maybe change "Thank you for your consideration!" to "We hope you can join us for our celebration in Paradise!" or something like that.

 

Good luck!! cheesy.gif



 

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Sorry, but I must agree with all the ladies.  It does sound a bit rude, or a bit pushy. We all know how you feel as most of us went or are going through it. We have set up a website on which I have provided all details and then once a week a do an update. If there are particular people I want to come, I've already talked to them; they know all the details.  You can't really make people rsvp, especially for a DW.  This is the harsh part of DW.  Keep in mind that a lot of people will wait till last minute to book hoping they'll get a 'last minute' sell out.  Some of my invited guests have told me they might 'surprise' us and just show up. I've included a note about element of surprise for a wedding on my website. Politely saying that I have to notify the resort's WC about number of people for my wedding etc etc. (I'm not a fan of surprises for something I'm putting a lot of effort planning).


Don't stress over the RSVP. When people are ready to book they will.  Some people will not even tell you they are not coming.  My wedding is in Sept. I sent out the invites in January.  I didn't even bother with RSVP cards (I thought it was a huge waste of money and stamps). Since I did passport invites, I dedicated a whole page to Reservations and RSVP. Asked to be notified by phone, email, via website or in person by July 1st if they are coming. Gave my self 2 months to order more favours etc. 

 

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