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I was hoping there was a thread that was just "share your story" as I feel a little...I don't know, shy I guess, about posting a thread all about my own proposal! So if you want to jump in with your story then go ahead, I won't get mad lol, but I understand most people want one all to themselves :)

 

We'd been looking at rings on and off for about 6 months, so he knows exactly what I wanted. We'd been discussing marriage too, as we're of two different nationalities so we have to consider visas etc, so I knew the proposal was coming. We actually had a vague date in mind and I was contacting marriage commissioners before we were even engaged!!

 

I suspected that I was getting proposed to on Christmas Day, he was SO excited and kind of gave it away! For the whole of December he kept going on about "Oh you'll LOVE your present!!!" "It's SOO amazing" "I'm SO excited" etc etc, until I'm ashamed to say I snapped at him that he was ruining the surprise, and ruining the present :$

 

So I knew it was coming, and spent the whole of Christmas morning on pins waiting!! Also I was really hoping it would be just us, I didn't want it to be in front of his family as I kind of felt like they would be intruding on what should be "our" moment. I knew all the presents were waiting at his Mom's house so I was a little concerned, but couldn't figure out how to pass on this wish without giving away that I knew!! Luckily he got the "vibe" :)

 

He repeatedly suggested that I go get dressed so we could go for a walk or go over to his Mom's house, so I kind of reluctantly took the hint and went off to our room, but then realised what he was up to so I took my time! I came on out and sneakily glanced around to see if I could see where it was. As I was about to sit back down he asked did I want a chocolate from my advent calendar?*

 

He was a little intense with it so I was a little puzzled, but got it and opened up the next door, finding a broken chocolate. He was sat staring at me intently, so I offered him the chocolate!! He asked what it said (there was a message on each door), so I told him, still totally bemused. He had me check the inside about 3 times! Then he asked - Did I want ANOTHER chocolate?! Well not really, I told him, I'll be sick if I eat much more (I'd already had a lot of chocolate at this point!). But I opened it anyway and there it was :) My beautiful ring :) That had escaped from the door it was SUPPOSED to be behind, and made his heartrate shoot through the roof!!

 

I then LEAPT across the room to where he was sat and somehow ended up on his lap, where he asked "Would you like to spend all of your Christmasses with me?" to which I answered "I would!!!!!!!" A few minutes later he did check...that's a yes, right? :)

 

It was a totally perfect proposal :) It was unique, it was special, and it was totally "me" :) He knew I didn't want it over dinner, as that was "cliched", so he wanted to do something different. He was going to propose while going for a walk, going to see the Christmas lights (which I looove), but the weather wouldn't co-operate - raaaaiiiiin!! He said he came up with a lot of different plans, and a few different speeches, but I love what I got, it was perfect in every way :)

 

 

 

 

*In the UK we have "disposable" advent calendars, they're cardboard and behind each "door" counting down to Christmas there's a chocolate, then when you've eaten all the chocolate you throw them away. My grandma buys her grandkids one each every year, she sent me mine and it arrived literally DAYS before Christmas, much to my excitement, which meant I could basically eat all the chocolate at once as I'd missed all the days. A photo of an advent calendar is here - I don't know how to make it a neat link lol http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_L_xtQKmEeWU/SxWBrrrGJMI/AAAAAAAABOA/xwMDExcayFk/s1600/cadbury.jpg

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Thank you :) Congratulations to you!! We're getting married in February 2011 too! We're eloping to Canada (our "destination wedding"!!) then will have our symbolic/renewal of vows ceremony a couple of years later in my church in the UK. It has to be a few years so we can save, and so his family can save up the flight and hotel costs ("destination" to them!).

 

Definitely best Christmas EVER! I was really homesick (been away from my family for 4 months and won't see them for another 2), I've never had a Christmas away and was feeling kind of down. So he partly proposed on Christmas day to make it special for me, and partly so he can remember the date easily :P I can't bring myself to throw away my advent calendar now, and I know that every Christmas (and advent calendar) will be amazingly special because it will remind me of this one :)

 

Good luck for your wedding, I hope everything goes to plan, or any hiccups are the "look back and laugh" type!! :)

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That sounds amazing, congrats!! I am reminded of my own proposal, where I had been expecting it FOREVER and told him not to do it on a special occasion because I would be expecing it, but then wondering if he would just because he knew I wouldn't expect it! I am also the same way, I told him long before that it better nto be in public!! To me, it is such a private moment, I would have been mad if it was in public. Yours sounds amazing, and you will love planning your wedding. Congrats!

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Thank you :) I'd thought for ages that I'd hate it to be on a holiday, that it'd take away from the holiday or something? I don't know. But when it came to it..it was amazing :) It just made the holiday even more amazing in every way! I wasn't bothered about in public if surrounded by strangers, but I didn't want to have people we knew around (not just his family...my family, our friends, anyone!) because they'd want to stick around and congratulate us, which is great...but not when I'm trying to savour the moment of OMG I'M ENGAGED!!! :P

 

Congratulations to you as well :)

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Coquitlam, BC, half an hour out of Vancouver :) We'll be there for about a week, probably stay in Vancouver itself and just drive to Coquitlam for the day. We don't know anyone in the area, so we're literally limited to the marriage commissioners who offer their own homes...or getting married in a public park and probably get rained on! We haven't picked a definite date yet, but know it'll be between the 11th-18th Feb, just NOT Valentines Day, I'm adamant on that point. We're having Harry Marusyk as our wedding commissioner, Ann Moore was unavailable for the dates we wanted and we were tearing our hair out (I say we, I mean me!), trying to find out if anyone else used their home. That's actually why I joined this site (and Weddingbells.ca), to see if anyone could help me out :) Harry comes highly recommended and seems really nice, he replies to all emails really promptly (even though I emailed him Christmas Eve and Day!!) and is really helpful.

 

I'm sure that may be more info than you need, but I know how frustrating it was trying to find information, and I wanted to have it all there in case there's a poor little soul trying to find these things out on google :P

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Hey I lived in Coquitlam for years and now just about 10 minutes away, let me know if you have any questions about things to do in the area or lacations t visit, not sure if you know the area very well?

 

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Coquitlam, BC, half an hour out of Vancouver :) We'll be there for about a week, probably stay in Vancouver itself and just drive to Coquitlam for the day. We don't know anyone in the area, so we're literally limited to the marriage commissioners who offer their own homes...or getting married in a public park and probably get rained on! We haven't picked a definite date yet, but know it'll be between the 11th-18th Feb, just NOT Valentines Day, I'm adamant on that point. We're having Harry Marusyk as our wedding commissioner, Ann Moore was unavailable for the dates we wanted and we were tearing our hair out (I say we, I mean me!), trying to find out if anyone else used their home. That's actually why I joined this site (and Weddingbells.ca), to see if anyone could help me out :) Harry comes highly recommended and seems really nice, he replies to all emails really promptly (even though I emailed him Christmas Eve and Day!!) and is really helpful.

 

I'm sure that may be more info than you need, but I know how frustrating it was trying to find information, and I wanted to have it all there in case there's a poor little soul trying to find these things out on google :P



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Thank you! That's really sweet :) I've never even been to Canada before, though my fiance has been to Vancouver. Can I ask, how do you pronounce Coquitlam? Is it as it looks - Co.quit.lam? I've been puzzling over it for ages! He kept thinking I hadn't a place in mind because I kept saying "it's some city but I can't pronounce it!", he obviously stopped listening at "some city" lol Would you say it'd be better to stay in Vancounver or Coquitlam, I figured there'd be that bit more to do in Vancouver..?

 

Our ceremony will be at Harry's house, and we won't have a professional photographer or anything, it's literally just a legality, but it'll be nice to go out for a romantic walk (if the weather co-operates) and a nice dinner that evening :) Any recommendations for places to walk? I like Italian food, so if you know of any nice Italian restaurants that'd be great too :)

 

Oooh I'm so excited!! :D I thought I wouldn't be, I thought I'd be a little bummed out about not having the whole dress and church and people around me etc, but I'm totally reconciled to the fact that this is the legality, this is what gives me him, and we can have the big "party" later :) I'll probably be sad on the day about not having my Dad give me away, my sisters as bridesmaids, and having my Mum cry in the background :P But it definitely works out better this way, I just hope that they forgive us!! We're not telling them until it's done, because there's no way anyone can make it to Canada and I don't want to cause them stress and upset trying to figure out HOW they can make it. I feel really guilty doing it this way, but I'd rather withhold information than lie, and I'd rather have them angry than tearing themselves up over wanting to make it and not being able to. So none of my family even knows I'm engaged, it's so nice to be excited at people on here :)

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