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Did I jump the gun by assuming he was going to propose?

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Okay...FH tells me that I'm a spaz and that I always see the positive side of any situation even if there isn't one...Prime example we saw three older guys walking briskly in the park I made the comment "Oh how nice their walking together" FH shakes his head and says "No their working, not walking. WOW you are so optimistic it's scary." 

 

So to my real question...a friend of ours has been dating this guy (James) for about 3 years, he calls me and another friend to invite us over (the same night he called for a gathering that was starting in 3 hours) to his house to celebrate their 3rd year anniversary...So this is my thinking:

 

1. If it was just a get-together why didn't our girlfriend call

2. Who calls people over for a get-together at the last minute on a Friday night with only a few hours to attend

3. Who celebrates anniversaries with friends and family if you aren't married; I can see with each other.

 

So I automatically got all excited, called all our friends (mistake #1) called FH (mistake #2) and got them all excited that it was going to be a proposal/engagement party (mistake #3).  FH was not buying it and told me I was crazy for believing it as did some of our friends. 

 

So anyway I got all of our friends over to his house expecting an proposal and was let down royally...So FH and my other friends were mad at me for getting them all excited for nothing...Was I wrong to assume this...another note even James' sister came with her PJ's assuming there was going to be a proposal..but FH says she's just as crazy so she doesn't count!

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I don't think you are wrong by any means, but you are always better off not to assume anything until you have the facts! After all you know what they say about assuming....it makes an a$$-out-of-u-and-me.

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Linds, you are so right...I have learned my lesson...but I just couldn't help being excited..although I should have kept my excitement to myself!

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I can see why you would assume this, but if that was the case you probably should have asked him first if that was his plan.  Does your friend know that you got everyone excited about her non proposal night?

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Originally Posted by vlynnw View Post

I can see why you would assume this, but if that was the case you probably should have asked him first if that was his plan.  Does your friend know that you got everyone excited about her non proposal night?


No she didn't know, but when I told her what I thought I kind of got the impression that she was hoping so too! So I felt bad... even her boyfriend's aunt came thinking the same thing...FH said that her boyfriend told him he wouldn't marry her until he felt like she was worthy! Can you believe that. But of course he didn't tell me this until after we left his house.  I won't dare say anything to my friend...
 

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This is something I would do. I guess this is just a learning experience. Do your homework first before making a big deal. :)

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I'm the ultimate foot-in-mouth girl!   don't worry about it.  Don't ever think your opinions are wrong (maybe just keep them to yourself, lol).  People will get over it!

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too funny! To be honest it sounds like your friend was expecting the proposal too (I made a few assumptions myself before my FI finally proposed)....well, hopefully it will happen soon!

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This is so funny! my FI keep saying "assumption is the mother of all fuck-ups" and my best friend keeps saying "assume makes an ass of you and me."

We can't help it, though. I would soooo have assumed that as well! I don't even know if I had kept my mouth shut or spread the word lol

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