NO Father Daughter Dance?

[LChavez]

I'm debating this as well, I would like to do it, but I don't want all the attention on us.

[TanyonL]

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Originally Posted by mlabbe I like the idea of doing something more inventive to avoid the discomfort of a slow dance... although that might turn out to be harder for him if he doesn't really know how to dance. Maybe you could have a dance the 4 of you at the same time, to take away all eyes on you and your dad, and let you FI have his dance with his mom? I'm skipping the father / mother dances, solves it for us!

The group dance is a great idea! No one gets hurt that way.

[MsSmithtobe]

i was thinking aBout just dancing with my mom, my father won't be there(don't know him) so why not have a mother/son and mother/daughter dance lol.

[jasonsmomma]

I was married before and was very nervous to dance with my dad for the same reasons and my poor dad is not a very "spotlight" kind of person. He was so nervous he wanted to practice ahead of time and maybe get some lessons~LOL! Anyway, we did it and it wasn't that bad! It was awkward though but not too bad. Hope that helps This time I probably won't be able to because I don't think my parents are going to go!

[msjulie5475]

I would suggest taking a dance class together if possible with your father. Maybe work with your fiance and your dance instructor to pick out a song where you and your father can dance more casually and your FI and his mom can dance as well.

[lsjhik]

Maybe do lessons together and bond? Make it less awkward?

[Susan'n'Dean]

Id never even thought about this. However, we only have a very small wedding party, 6 in total so i wont even be having a first dance with my husband in the actual day. We will save that for out reception back in the UK. I am like you and dont have a touchy feely kind of relationship with my dad, anything like dancing would feel so weird for the both of us i think. The only way around that would be if i was drunk and then i wouldnt think anything of it. Shame its like that with our own father isnt it, but when its been like that for so many years you cant just change.

[horegan]

I think it would mean a lot to him if you did... even if everything isn't perfect, 

[helen9]

I'm not doing one. Neither myself or my dad dance so it would be silly and awkward.

[islandbride8]

If you definately don't want to dance with your dad, that's your choice and there's nothing wrong with that.  No one should put you in a situation where you are uncomfortable.  That being said, don't ask your FI to do a faster dance with his mom.  I'm sure this is something very important to him (and his mom) and you don't want him to resent you.  This is a tough situation.  If it does turn into a problem I would just get through dancing for 3 minutes with your Dad (it really isn't torture!)