Ive upset my 18 year old !!!!
Posted 25 February 2010 - 10:44 PM
At the moment he has his hand in plaster after breaking it in three places.For those in the know thats unusual.Two weeks before that we were in Accident and emergency thinking hed broken his foot.In october he had septo rinoplasty on his nose.The first two injuries were football related the later from falling from a tree when he was ten.
I feel mean for saying no.Malia is a young persons resort and i know the holiday would be all about sun sea and sex.He was 18 only three weeks ago!!!
Some of his friends went last year without any problems.
BUT what if something goes wrong?
Our wedding is on the 4th September we fly out on the 31st of August.He would be back around the 13th.
He went to bed with the hump tonight and ive come downstairs unable to sleep partly cos of my bloody tooth its killing me and then because Malia keeps going through my head.
Paul undestands my concerns Josh is just an accident waiting to happen if something went wrong i would want/have to fly out and with the wedding just a fourtnight later we would really really struggle financially.
Paul said what if there was trouble and he was arrested and then fell asleep!!!
That was it my mind was made up
BUT in the morning i just know he will want me to explain why he cant go.BUT what
If i said yes and something bad happened
I just feel i should go with my gut instinct what do you all think?
Posted 25 February 2010 - 11:07 PM
But he is 18 and he is an adult and as much as you don't want him to go you probably should let him, in my opinion. You don't want him to resent you for not letting him express his independence. Can you have a talk with him and express you concerns? Is he responsible enough to listen and understand, if so then he is showing he is responsible enough to go. If not then maybe you are doing the right thing by saying No.
From one mom to another, I know its never easy. I wish you all the best in making these hard decisions.
Posted 26 February 2010 - 01:28 AM
of course kids don't want to here this "no b/c i said so" type of answer, so maybe you could explain to him that you'll be in greece anyway for the wedding a few weeks later and that he can have his vacation then. maybe you could let him bring one friend or something like that. besides like you said he JUST turned 18, you could tell him that YOU need sometime to adjust to the fact that he's an "adult" now and he can make the next guys' trip.
Posted 26 February 2010 - 11:14 AM
Posted 27 February 2010 - 05:08 AM
He said thats rubbish left the room and went and played the playstation.
I showered and went into him said i was off to TK Maxx and did he want to come or was he going to sulk all day? The reply was "im not ready"i told him thats not what i asked was he coming or was he gunna continue to sulk.He deceided to come and wa very quiet.
To be fair he didnt question my decision at all
I await the next instalment when someone cancels but am confiedent he wont budget for the just in case.
Im very relieved he didnt just use the im 18 card and go book it PHEW
Posted 27 February 2010 - 12:41 PM
Posted 27 February 2010 - 01:09 PM
While is Mexico my brother who is single at 36, no kids, no responsibility!!!! had this bright idea that he would take my son, my FI and the rest of the guys into Cancun the night before the wedding for a pub crawl.... Oh he was pissed with me when I told him that was not happening..(FI wasn't interested in doing it anyway) ... Like you, I could feel bad vibes just thinking about what could happen and why open that door... I think your asking a small favor... please don't do this honey... Totally support you on this..
Posted 27 February 2010 - 05:14 PM
Posted 27 February 2010 - 08:57 PM
He has said though were doing a stag do in Zante and luckily Paul has said NO lol
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