MIL visiting your resort before the wedding?
Posted 19 February 2010 - 05:37 PM
don't let it bother you, it really isn't worth the drama. your wedding will still be special and magical regardless of who sees it beforehand. i promise.
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Posted 21 February 2010 - 08:43 PM
Posted 22 February 2010 - 10:35 AM
Posted 22 February 2010 - 01:46 PM
There are much bigger things in life to worry about than your MIL visiting your resort!! Thats my two cents.
Posted 22 February 2010 - 01:52 PM
It seems like your MIL is already excited about your resort choice otherwise she wouldn't be going there again much less recommending it to the friends who are going with them. It might also be a blessing since she will be able to give opinions on food, location, etc. I feel like the more information the better...you'll have a first hand experience from someone you trust. Maybe, if it gets to the point she tried to take over planning...just tell her you appreciate the help but you've got it under control. But as far as not wanting anyone else to travel there before the wedding is a bit ridiculous imo.
Posted 22 February 2010 - 04:09 PM
I also think that EVERYONE has a different relationship with their FMIL or MIL and that can sway someone's opinion of this.
On the bright side, she may have some awesome advice...and like I said, keep looking for those deals, site visits are great experience if you can do it! Overall, it’s your day, you are paying for it and it will and should be the wedding of your dreams. Like some other girls have said on this forum about MOGs and MOBs, just give them a designated To Do List. =)
Posted 23 February 2010 - 03:12 PM
Posted 26 February 2010 - 11:32 PM
| Originally Posted by becks |
I'm sorry she's stepping on your toes. That's not fun!
But seriously, don't worry about it. Tell her in no uncertain terms that you do not want to hear ANYTHING about the resort or her experience. Tell her that you want it to be totally new to you because you want your wedding experience to be a something totally unique. Tell her that one of the reasons you picked the resort was because you didn't want anyone attending to give you input, so that it could be totally yours and yours alone. Get your FI on board, too.
And then anytime she opens her yap to tell you that you should *whatever*, hold up your hand and tell her you want it to be new when you get there, and walk away.
Oh, and yeah, that's not a nice thing for her to do. But MILs are a pain. I still tell everyone I know to marry an orphan.
Posted 01 March 2010 - 05:37 PM
| Originally Posted by volosikj |
Thanks everyone for the great advice. It definitely has helped me cool down to hear different sides. I am going to try to put together a "to do" list for her to check out, and just ask her not to share too much about her trip/experience. I am trying to be positive about it. I will let you know how it turns out in a few weeks once she comes back from the trip.
Posted 01 March 2010 - 07:43 PM
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