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#41 Jenny310

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    Posted 11 May 2010 - 01:54 PM

    I don't speak to my dad but my mother insisted on inviting him even though he's never even met my fiance. For me there was never a question that my mom would walk me down the isle, I always wanted her to; she has always been there for me and we are very close. My dad asked my sister who was walking me down the isle and when she told him my mom was he thought that was wierd. I don't know if he actually thought I would ask him to! Anyway I think the person who walks you should be someone who has always been there for you so I'm not going to have my dad do it (if he goes) just beacuse tradition says so. I wouldn't take that honor away from my mother. Actually I think people would think its more wierd that he would walk me down the isle LOL

    #42 MrsC-to-Be

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      Posted 11 May 2010 - 02:11 PM

      My dad is not attending either, doesnt want to board his dogs/leave the house in the winter :P

      As far as I know, my mom and brother are coming..and that is it from my family. the only other people coming are my FI's parents, brother +girlfriend, and maybe his grandparents. (very intimate small wedding)

      I like the idea of meeting FI halfway or at the top of the isle, that seems so symbolic I dont know if I could do it without crying all over the place!! or, I will just walk by myself or with my mom

      #43 HazelsMelody

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        Posted 12 May 2010 - 04:39 PM

        For my first wedding, my dad did not attend as we were also on non-speaking terms. My mom walked me down the aisle, and instead of the father-daughter dance, my grandpa danced with me and it was awesome (he's an awesome dancer!!).

        My dad said he will probably come to this wedding, but since I believe in the tradition that the father walks the daughter down the aisle and "gives her away" to her groom, it kinda doesn't apply since I've already been given away. I'm an independent now.

        Instead, I'm having my children walk me down the aisle. My two daughters are from a previous marriage so it'll be kind of symbolic of them sharing me with my fiancĀ©. I just haven't decided if they'll walk with me, or ahead of me a few steps or what, but that's the idea anyway.
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        #44 Bpink62581

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          Posted 14 May 2010 - 12:18 PM

          I agree that whatever a bride decides to do, whether it's having your mom walk you down the aisle or go it alone, it should be whatever makes you happy and comfortable.

          I am unfortunately in the same situation that a lot of ladies are in on here. My father and I are not on speaking terms (not for lack of trying on my part). My parents divorced when I was 17 and though the situation sucked it really brought my mom, sister, and I closer together. They have always been the constants in my life. So my sister is my MOH and my mom is walking me down the aisle :) I wouldn't have it any other way!

          #45 Bpink62581

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            Posted 14 May 2010 - 12:20 PM

            Just saw that your big day is only a WEEK AWAY Megan! Congrats and have a wonderful time!!

            #46 blckrevpower

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              Posted 20 May 2010 - 01:10 PM

              Hopefully if my Daddy is able to come, he will walk me down the aisle.
              Sorry to hear that some of you brides don't speak to your fathers. . .
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              #47 AishaB

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                Posted 20 May 2010 - 01:18 PM

                Well I don't have a relationship with my dad either. My mom walked my sisters down the aisle and most likely she will be walking with me. I say most likely, cause I have been throwing around the idea walking by myself. Just havent decided as yet.
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                #48 dania

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                  Posted 08 June 2010 - 12:25 PM

                  I am also in the same situation. My father hasn't been a father to me since the day I was born. I am having my older brother walking me down the aisle. He took the protector role of a father since we were kids even thought he just a year older that me.
                  I'm thinking of having the father-daughter dance with my future father-in-law. He is great man and I lke him alot but I am wondering if it will look weird.

                  Who are you dancing the Father-Daughter-dance with?

                  #49 knitgirl13

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                    Posted 08 June 2010 - 12:59 PM

                    I would just not include the dance. If it's with anyone else it's not even the same name and would sound weird if it was called something that it wasn't. I will be walking by myself because I haven't spoken to my father in 10 years and my grandfather sadly passed away last year. I don't think it's odd to have your mom walk you, but mine probably won't be attending.

                    #50 Jenny310

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                      Posted 08 June 2010 - 04:52 PM

                      I'm going to dance with my mom to Celine Dion, becasue you loved me.

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