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I'm also glad someone brought this up. Been struggling with this issue. We got married a year ago at the courthouse and only told our parents and siblings. Even our closest friends don't know. I'm not sure when/if to break it to everyone and how they will react. Any ideas??

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we are getting married legally in June but only having very close family friends attend the church service. i won't be wearing any fancy attire. it is more so for me being catholic and wanting to get married in a church. we will have a celebration and symbolic ceremony down in Mexico but we are not goign to advertise that we got married months ago. We will celebrate our anniversary on the day we got married in Mexico. in the process of getting the paper work for my church ceremony,i had to acquire a copy of my baptism. i just received it in the mail the other day and learned that i am getting married on the same day i got baptized! Nov. 17th!

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That's great, exactly what I was looking for!! I was hoping that since it's a DW and docs need to be translated, that our guests will just assume we are going it before the ceremony.

So that's good to know that someone else managed to pull it off!
So you only had to go a few days before you left? Was that for the license or the certificate? I am still confused over that, leaving it to the FI to look into!
It was both. We paid $125 for the certificate and $300+ for the license. You get them on the same day. We had to go the week before to meet with the officiant and fill out forms so they have everything ready on the day of the ceremony. My parents were our witnesses.

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We're getting married legally before we go and most likely wont tell anybody. I would rather have everybody excited at our DW.. that way it's still exciting and feeling like my wedding day in mexico

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We are getting legally married at home first but will keep it very simple without any of the ceremonial parts. As far as we our concerned, our Mexico wedding will be the real deal. We are not keeping it a secret but we are not advertising it either. My mom is an officiant so she will do the legal aspect for us here and then will do the ceremonial aspect for us in Mexico. We will probably do it at my grandmother's house as she is unable to travel and can't come to Mexico.

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i hear that someone had a friend do the ceremony in Punta Cana because they did the legal thing back home. Would anyone do that? I'm sure your guests would figure it out but I like the idea. We can really personalize it and the English will be better. My brother got married in Punta Cana and had to have a translator and they said his name wrong.

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We are getting married first in Toronto legally. My fiance's cousin did this, too since they were getting married in Quebec and would have had to post marriage banns in the town!

 

I told my close friend and bridesmaid and she thought it was a great idea, too. Less to worry about and everyone's going to be so excited to be doing the AI thing all week, they could care less! Lol.

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Yes, we're doing the whole legal thing before heading down and then having a very close friend of the family "marry us" in front of friends & family in Mexico. For starters, my fiance used to clerk for a judge and he really wanted to judge to marry us. But since the judge is 94 years old, we can't count on him making the trip :) And second of all, it is sooooo much easier doing the legal stuff in the States! Only our parents will be at the one in the States and we plan on treating the destination wedding as our true wedding date.

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I'm leaning more towards doing the civil ceremony there -- I'd like to have my actual wedding with all my friends and family. However, my FI was not born here and he does not have his birth certificate. He is not close to his parents, so he's in the process of trying to contact them to see if they have it, but it is possible that he just won't have one. I've e-mailed the Dominican embassy to see if they accept some other kind of ID instead (i.e. Canadian citizenship + passport) but have not heard back yet. Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation?

 

In the end, we may have to do the symbolic ceremony due to the above reason.

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I was so against having it here but changed my mind. We are getting married here first. Its so much easier. I won't be telling any of the guests.

Not only is it easier but in my wedding package is a $1000 dollar difference from civil to symbolic. Crazy!

We are getting married here as soon as possible.

 

I'm a bit confused already! haha it doesn't take much ; )

How does it all work in Ontario? Can you just go to city hall get the paper and then get an officiant? Or is there more to it?

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