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I want both my dad & stepdad to walk me down the aisle - help!

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#1 moonpalacebride

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    Posted 04 January 2010 - 02:49 AM

    Hey ladies!

    So as you can see by the title of this thread, I'm having a hard time figuring out how to have both my Dad and Stepdad walk me down the aisle.

    Stepdad basically raised me, but my Dad has always been a big part of my life and I want to include them both.

    I toyed with the option of having neither, but it seems wrong!

    Should they both walk me, one on each side?

    I really don't know how to tell my Dad about this either, I'm sure he assumes he'll be walking me....

    Any input is greatly appreciated, thanks in advance!!!

    #2 JaimeandBrandon

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      Posted 04 January 2010 - 03:02 AM

      I have a similar dilemna... only not really :-) My mom has ALWAYS been there for me and I've always wanted her to walk me down the aisle... but I feel bad leaving my dad and step-dad out.

      Maybe you could have one walk you to the aisle... and the other walk you down the aisle? Not sure how your set up is but I've seen something like this done before. I've also seen both parents walk the bride down the aisle... so I suppose you could have both dad's walk you down!

      hmmm I don't think I was very helpful :-) But let us know what you decide to do!


      #3 jk1101

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        Posted 04 January 2010 - 11:41 AM

        I think it's really nice that you want both to be a part of your day, and your dad should respect that your stepdad raised you, and that he should be included as well. If you tell them both how much you would love to have them on either side of them and how honored you would be to have them both walk you down, neither one of them should be upset.

        #4 TonyandTricia

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          Posted 04 January 2010 - 11:49 AM

          I have the same issue going on! I think I'll have them both...one on each side, but haven't found a way to tell my dad yet...

          #5 moonpalacebride

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            Posted 04 January 2010 - 07:50 PM

            Yeah I really don't know how I'm going to tell my Dad either... I think that's my biggest dilemma of this whole wedding planning adventure yet!

            #6 NaM

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              Posted 04 January 2010 - 07:55 PM

              Maybe you could have your dad walk you in and your step dad walk you down the aisle. I'm sure if your dad knows you are close to your stepdad that he would understand you wanting both of them be a part.
              You could also have one of them do a special reading or something to include them?
              Good luck!! At the end of the day don't stress too much, it's just a minute of your day and everyone will be really happy for you!

              #7 lrdavis23

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                Posted 04 January 2010 - 08:04 PM

                I too had the same problem at first because I am close with my step dad and dad, and I am going to have my dad walk me down the first part of the aisle and my step dad meet us half way and then they will both continue to walk me down together , this kinda symbolized when my step dad actually came into my life.
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                #8 **Kat**

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                  Posted 20 January 2010 - 03:50 PM

                  I am having the same problem. Well, kind of. My step dad has always been there.. but my dad - not really. I want my step dad to walk me down the aisle but I know that I would also feel kind of awkward having my dad just sitting there watching. To be honest I dont know that my dad would really care all that much.. but I would still feel pretty weird about it..

                  Ugh lol

                  #9 stacey


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                    Posted 20 January 2010 - 03:54 PM

                    I had both my dad and step dad walk me down the isle. I was worried at first about how to tell my dad and how he would react. However I didnt make a big deal about it. I just announced that both would be walking me down the isle, as if there we no other options. I also did two father daughter dances.
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                    #10 riokayak

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                      Posted 20 January 2010 - 03:58 PM

                      I vote for both. Dad might not like it initially, but is probably aware that SD has been a huge part of your life.

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