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FMIL walking FI down the aisle??

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#1 Jo 2010

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    Posted 24 November 2009 - 01:49 AM

    OK, so FMIL wants to walk her son down the aisle before I walk down with my dad...

    What do you guys think?

    My FI is totally embarrassed by the whole thing, and just wants to stand up sneak down the side and stand up the front with his mates waiting for me.

    I kinda feel like she wants some of my limelight by walking down the aisle? am i being crazy?

    He has tried to say that its not really what he wants, but she is insisting on it.

    So do we try and explain and risk hurting her feelings? Or do I tell FI to 'suck it up' and just do what his mum wants - since its not really a massive request anyway...

    Has anyone seen a wedding where the groom walks down the aisle with his mother first??

    #2 damaris

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      Posted 24 November 2009 - 02:17 AM

      I have been in weddings where the Mom walks her son down the aisle before the Dad walks the bride. In some cases the mother and son are that close. For example my friend his mom raised him a single mother. He wouldn't have it any other way


      #3 emme

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        Posted 24 November 2009 - 04:15 AM

        We started off our processional with my husband :) walking both his Mom and my Mom down the aisle...one on each side of him. We wanted our Mom's to feel special and thought it was a nice touch. After that, then came the rest of the bridal party and then me with my Dad. It's really a personal choice and whatever you're comfortable with...no "rules" with destination weddings :)

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        #4 SusieQ

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          Posted 24 November 2009 - 07:55 AM

          I have seen were the groom has walked "mom to her seat and he also had grandma on the other arm". If you want to smooth things with hubby and make her happy, tell him he is escorting her to her chair out of respect for raising him to the man he has become. If he barks at that she may have to suck it up... It is his wedding day too.

          #5 mich999

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            Posted 24 November 2009 - 12:04 PM

            Usually parents of the groom walk down first, then mother of the bride, then bridal party. If FMIL wants to walk with FI, you could have her do that with your son first and then have everyone after so there is a big gap between the two of you. I agree taht I would want FI to walk down right before you.

            #6 GracieBebe

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              Posted 24 November 2009 - 02:09 PM

              At our wedding, MIL walked DH down the aisle. At the end, he gave her a kiss on the cheek, helped her to her seat and got into his position. She raised him after his father passed away when he was 13 and they are very close. They wouldn't have wanted it any other way. My father is passed away so I had my mother walk me down the aisle. We thought it was symbolic that both our moms raised us alone and both were able to walk us down the aisle so that we could be joined together in the bonds of marriage.

              Also, since we were having the marriage ceremony and ring exchange to show our bond of unity together, we had our moms performs the unity candle ceremony to symbolize each of our families bonding and uniting together.
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              #7 *HOLLY*

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                Posted 24 November 2009 - 02:17 PM

                Honestly having them walk down isnt so bad. I would say have them walk down BEFORE the BM's if you are having them. If they walk right before you to me that seems silly IMO.

                #8 carolina24

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                  Posted 24 November 2009 - 02:26 PM

                  I've seen it but it's definately BEFORE the bridesmaids walk in. I say have him do it b/c it's his mom and he's going to be up there in front of everyone anyway so might as well start the embarrassment early

                  #9 IrishgirlinNY

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                    Posted 24 November 2009 - 02:29 PM

                    At my brothers wedding, he walked down the aisle with my mom and my dad. Then the bridal party and then his wife walked down with both of her parents. I thought it was nice, especially for my mom. She has since passed away and it was great to know she had a part in his wedding.

                    #10 alkoch

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                      Posted 24 November 2009 - 02:58 PM

                      I don't know I think its totally your call, I am a little bitter to my FMIL so if she asked that I would think that she was trying to show me up or control something. I like the idea of him walking down with his grandma & mom-But it seems pretty common, so I think it is what you are willing to compromise on for your wedding day. But don't forget it is your & FI's day.

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