breakup or forgive & not forget
Posted 20 November 2009 - 06:20 PM
If you love him and he loves you, those feelings will be there next year or the year after once he has come clean a 100% and dealt with his issues. marraige and a couple kids will only add to his stress and temptation to return to his addictions. My 2cents!!!
Posted 20 November 2009 - 06:38 PM
and i know people will say dont worry about them better sooner then later, but i cant help feeling bad if that were to happen.
Posted 20 November 2009 - 06:59 PM
I'm still saying work through it. Not a single relationship is without problems and getting married is about learning to work through the problems and not just give up and walk away. He probably needs your love and support to help him trhough his problem. It sounds like you need to hear him say he will do WHATEVER it takes to make ti work with you. Do you even know what it would take?
I've been following this non stop because I've been worrying about you since I read this!
Posted 20 November 2009 - 10:05 PM
The trip is a completely different issue. Can people get their deposits back? How much would you lose if you covered the cancellation? If you don't want to cancel the trip, just cancel the wedding and make it a vacation. Change the purpose of the trip and have a smaller wedding when you are ready.
Posted 20 November 2009 - 11:12 PM
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Posted 21 November 2009 - 12:39 AM
One day you will need forgiveness from him...it is just inevitable.
My FI and i have been through a lot in our 3 years and I know that because of our really difficult times we will have a lasting marriage...
Keep me posted on how you are doing. Your FI must be emotionally exhausted and I would imagine you would be even more so. Try to do something that you enjoy to take your mind off of things..a nice massage or something? Just a thought!
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