STD - Invitation confusion
Posted 19 November 2009 - 12:01 AM
I haven't been to many weddings and before last year I did not even know Save The Date existed.
I *think* I've gathered that you send Save The Date to everyone you want to invite about a year before. The guests have nothing to do, no need to reply to you. Then a few months before the wedding you send the actual invitations with a RSVP date. Do I have it right so far?
Here is where I get very confused. With a DW, you can't really send the official invite only a few months prior, you need to do that much earlier so that the guests can book their trip. Would the booking be sent with the formal invitation, and then Save The Dates would be sent even before just as a heads up to guests to start and save money? Or would the booking info be included with the Save The Date, then a formal invitation would be sent only to those who books a couple of months before the wedding to *remind* them? But then, do you send a third thing before all of that to tell them to save money? Or do you do that by word of mouth?
My DW is in May of 2011 and we can only start booking in April 2010. the thing is, we have a fairly large guest list and I'm pretty sure a lot of them won't be able to come. So I kinda want to ask them before April if they *think* they will come, just so I make a fairly good estimate of how many seats/rooms I need to block.
So I guess after all this rambling (sorry if it's a mess, but it's kinda of a mess in my head in the first place. LOL) my question is: What should I send and when?
Posted 19 November 2009 - 12:13 AM
Posted 19 November 2009 - 12:32 AM
So you could have a link that lets them RSVP, that way you don't have to wait till you get response cards. Unfortunaly, I don't think you'll have a good estimate until after April (when you can actually start booking). We did our website through weddingwire.com. It was easier than others I tried, everything is step by step--and it's free!!
Posted 19 November 2009 - 01:30 AM
If you have a group of computer savvy guests, you may get by with an email save-the-date with a link to your wedding website. In my case, I knew a lot of my family members were not very computer savvy (in fact, a lot of them have not even looked at our website), so it was best to mail them the information. Like someone said in a previous post, you can include an RSVP section on your website. You can check out my website (link in my siggy) for ideas.
I plan to send out formal invitations in January 2010 to all of those that RSVPâ€™d â€œyesâ€ to the preliminary RSVP and probably to those that did not RSVP at all. But, I will not be sending formal invites to those that have told us that they definitely cannot make it. I will also include an RSVP card with the formal invites, mostly to collect information (like driverâ€™s license numbers, etc.) that the cruise line requires for all of our wedding guests and also to reconfirm their attendance. Hope this helps!
Posted 19 November 2009 - 01:57 PM
Posted 22 November 2009 - 12:58 PM
I think what we will do is set up our wedding website sometimes this winter, as well as possibly a facebook event page, with general information (like the country and month of the wedding). We'll email this to everyone, and ask for people to spread the word of mouth to those without the internet (though most people already know the general details, thanks to my FMIL. She's so excited about this.) So that would be sort of an informal STD.
Then once we book with the agent we'll send out the formal invitations with booking info, as well as a link to our website. We'll email or speak to those who have yet to book once we get close to the cut-off date. We can use our facebook event page to send reminders to people that our wedding is coming up.
Now I have to figure out when to give the OOT bags, a week or two before or at the airport (don't want to bring them all with me over there. Haha)
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