"wtf" is wrong with people?

[JaimeLynne]

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Originally Posted by Julesr You know what your children will have to face, being so good looking that everyone will want to be their friends and when they get older be in love with them. I am sorry, but I have never met a "mixed race" person who is not exceptionally good looking. People need to understand that love is love, it does not see colour or race or religion or even sex, you can't help who you love, and you should never ever need to!

That is so true, just look at that adorable pic of Kelly's son! I've actually heard that when you mix races you are taking from such wider gene pools that you get the best genes from each. I can't exactly remember the science behind it but it's like mixed breed dogs - often they don't pick up the "poor" genetic traits from each of the two different breeds but instead pick up the best! Why do you think there are so many whatever-doodles out there?! lol

[starchild]

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Originally Posted by Nrvsbride Eeew I am not going to go off on a racial rant but I just wanted to say that I really cannot fathom how it is 2007 and people are still making comments about interacial couples. My FI is Irish (I'm Spanish) and I've had rude people in his neighborhood ask if I'm the nanny!! Who does that? Uggh I really feel for the brides on this forum that have people making snide or disparaging remarks, it is sooooo not acceptable!

Okay Glenda how long do you wait before you sock them in the nose? J/K you know I'm anti-violence but come on. It's insanity. I've only experienced discrimination from police who have made some horrible assumptions about us, but that's another thread so I'll stop. I feel for everyone who experiences this.

[Lori]

I feel your pain!!! I am sorry that your soon to be hubby's family is giving you a hard time. People are just not worried about being rude and/or inconsiderate these days. They are missing out on a wonderful day. Myabe it is for the best, which is easy for me to say. I wish you all the best. If it makes you feel any better my fiance's family is NOT attending our wedding in Jamaica either. They are just really triflin!! His mother pulled out at the last minute and said that we should have consulted with her first and that she had bills to pay. Go figure.

 

Some people have some nerve!!!

[dragonfly]

I am sorry I am not alone in my family dilemma. I do agree that friends are easier to deal with then family, I guess they are our friends for a reason.

 

Well here is my update, after much stress, and alot of fighting between Everton and I, Everton's whole family (except his brother) worked it out and paid the rest of their trips.

 

I don't know how it happened but I think Everton told them that if they didn't find him marrying the person he loves most and the mother of his child important, then they can stop expecting him for any of the family things that they find important. He dealt with and I don't want to know all he details. I do know that some words were had with my ta and with some of his family, and my ta phoned to complain to me, and Everton took the phone and told her to stop bugging me with the nitty gritty details, that his family was not my responsibility. My Ta has loved telling me every conversation she has with my guests who are not happy, she also loves to tell me about admin costs that she is eating for us?? Didn't know I was suppose to be responsible for any of these fee's?? I was fed up with them all and E finally told them back off and leave me alone, and follow through on what they had committed to do.

 

Anyway everyone is booked, we are 44 people now confirmed and paid in full. Thank god this part is done and over with, it really is the most difficult part of planning a dw. I am going to concentrate on the rest of the details and work on forgetting this blib ever happened.

 

We will all go on vacation, have a beautiful wedding and maybe Everton's family will finally see how much Everton and I love each other, what a great family we have, and what a beautiful sweet boy they have missed out on knowing.

 

Good luck to all of you who also will go through similar experiences, I have no good advice for you on how to handle it, I wish I did. It is easy to say don't let it bother you, or hurt you, but we all know that this really is easier said than done! Unfortunately the people who are able to hurt us most are the people we love most, or in my case the people who we want to love us.

 

Thanks for all the words of encouragment, this would have been so much worse without all you girls supporting me and helping me deal, you girls are truly great. Give yourselves a hug and as Glenda would say, Kelly hearts you

 

Kelly~

[JulieG]

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Originally Posted by dragonfly I am sorry I am not alone in my family dilemma. I do agree that friends are easier to deal with then family, I guess they are our friends for a reason. Well here is my update, after much stress, and alot of fighting between Everton and I, Everton's whole family (except his brother) worked it out and paid the rest of their trips. I don't know how it happened but I think Everton told them that if they didn't find him marrying the person he loves most and the mother of his child important, then they can stop expecting him for any of the family things that they find important. He dealt with and I don't want to know all he details. I do know that some words were had with my ta and with some of his family, and my ta phoned to complain to me, and Everton took the phoe and told her to stop bugging me with the nitty gritty details, that his family was not my responsibility. My Ta has loved telling me every conversation she has with my guests who are not happy, she also loves to tell me about admin costs that she is eating for us?? Didn't know I was suppose to be responsible for any of these fee's?? I was fed up with them all and E finally told them back off and leave me alone, and follow through on what they had committed to do. Anyway everyone is booked, we are 44 people now confirmed and paid in full. Thank god this part is done and over with, it really is the most difficult part of planning a dw. I am going to concentrate on the rest of the details and work on forgetting this blib ever happened. We will all go on vacation, have a beautiful wedding and maybe Everton's family will finally see how much Everton and I love each other, what a great family we have, and what a beaurtful sweet boy they have missed out on knowing. Good luck to all of you who also will go through similar experiences, I have no good advice for you on how to handle it, I wish I did. It is easy to say don't let it bother you, or hurt you, but we all know that this really is easier said than done! Unfortunately the people who are able to hurt us most are the people we love most, or in my case the people who we want to love us. Thanks for all the words of encouragment, this would have been so much worse without all you girls supporting me and helping me deal, you girls are truly great. Give yourselves a hug and as Glenda would say, Kelly hearts you Kelly~

I am soooooo happy to hear that things are working out. I am so happy that everton stood up to them and stood up for you and your family.

YAY!!!!:elefan t:

[dragonfly]

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Originally Posted by Julesr I am soooooo happy to hear that things are working out. I am so happy that everton stood up to them and stood up for you and your family. YAY!!!!:elefan t:

Thanks Julie, when are we going to have that drink? I could head Barrie way, since you don't drive, Everton and Liam fish every weekend and I could convince them to head that way to fish, and then we could head out for coctails.

How far is Unionville from you, they have the best patio's so that could be an idea. Of course it would be great if Laura came also.

Kelly~

[CourtneyV]

Wow. Well I'm glad it's all sorted out. But whats up with your TA?! Seriously, who complains to their clients all the time about the bride's family? Also, I've never heard of TA administration fees, but I also haven't used very many TA's before. I'd fight them if she brought them up though

[dragonfly]

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Originally Posted by Nini_Bride Wow. Well I'm glad it's all sorted out. But whats up with your TA?! Seriously, who complains to their clients all the time about the bride's family? Also, I've never heard of TA administration fees, but I also haven't used very many TA's before. I'd fight them if she brought them up though

No she didn't want them from me but she always wants me to know how she is doing this for us free of charge and that out of the goodness of her heart, and how she is willing to cut into her commision to help some one out. I told her it was all BS, that she gave us our price per peson and that is all she should expect, the rest of her costs are the cost of doing business, just like anyother ta who wanted our business. I hate freakin passive aggressive people, she def falls into this category.

[PaulaV]

Kelly ~ I am glad to hear it is working out and you can put that behind you now.

Here's a big one for ya!

[cessyboston]

i am so happy for you both and your son you will have an amazing wedding...i wish you so much happiness...its weird how weddings can bring out so much happiness but yet so much not kind people too...much love and happiness