So my sister just got engaged, 3 months after I did :l
Posted 12 August 2009 - 03:26 PM
Your weddings will be different enough that there is no reason to compete - and I think it's better that yours will be after hers.. When hers is done, you will still have a few months to focus on yours and be the center of attention again... And you get a whole weekend or week of wedding activities; she only gets 1 day...
Posted 12 August 2009 - 03:35 PM
I actually got engaged 3 months after my best friend of 25 years. Unspoken rules are that you are priority and you get the first choices. I definitely think you should sit down with her and say that you know you'd definitely appreciate a time of it being all about her and you'd like to be able to focus on one wedding at a time as you will each be helping each other I assume.
My engagement was in February 2008 and I'm not getting married until May 2010. It's because my BF decided to get married June 2009 and I wanted us to be able to be there for one another, focus on the other ones wedding and not combine it. It worked perfectly and it was definitely the best and easiest route. I didn't mention my wedding until after her wedding and now it's all about me and I'm glad I get to have the spot light for once.
After I went dress shopping and purchased my dress I was so greatful I didn't have to share that moment with someone else.
Good luck, just talk to her about it
Posted 12 August 2009 - 07:52 PM
but at the same time it kept people from bothering me too much about how my wedding plans were going. Also, my FI (who was a groomsman) and I (bridesmaid) spent the whole wedding thinking about how ours was going to be so much easier, funner and better. Not to mention I save a lot of money on postage by handing out my invites at a "we're next" event my mom held for us the next morning. That brunch saved us having to plan a reception when we got home and allowed a lot of family members who are unable to make our tropical wedding say their congradulations
Has your sister asked you how you feel about this? I don't think it would be out of line for you to explain your feelings about this to her.
Posted 14 August 2009 - 02:16 PM
My Mom actually asked my sister if we could do a seperate dress shopping trip for her because my MOH who was coming in the same car as me and Mom needed to get home to her kids. So that's taken care of.
As for the other issues - I'm sure we'll work it out. My sister takes off to Florida for a week or two soon so I'll wait till she gets back to discuss things with her. In the meantime - I'm definetly going to get my Save-The-Dates out asap so that the people who have to fly in to both weddings RSVP to ME first. lol.
I'll keep y'all posted
Posted 25 August 2009 - 12:58 AM
Posted 22 October 2009 - 10:32 AM
Everything has been working out great so far. We decided to have all my celebrations (shower, bachlorette, etc) AFTER her wedding so we don't have to try to plan all those with eachother. This way, I also get the summer and fall months for my parties, which are MUCH better weather up here Canada for get-togethers.
I gave my Mom my wedding dress design first and my sister will have to come up with something different. haha.
Also, while she wanted to be married in June, her date is not near my 30th birthday in June, which will obv. be an important celebration for me.
So far, so good! I'll be keeping ya posted!! Thanks for your support ladies!
Posted 22 October 2009 - 12:14 PM
Posted 22 October 2009 - 12:21 PM
Also That is so awesome your mom is making your dress - super jealous!
Posted 22 October 2009 - 12:36 PM
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