Fustrated with people
Posted 28 July 2009 - 08:52 PM
My FI and I have been engaged for about 2 yrs. We wanted to to a wedding in NY but I just couldnt see myself spending $30-50 on a wedding. I could use that $$ as a down payment on a house. Since I was a little girl I pictured myself getting married in front of the beach. About 1 year and a half ago I started researching it and realized that I could have the wedding of my dreams at a reasonable price. So my FI and I discussed the destination wedding idea with my family and they were on board. His immediate family gave us some for it but once his mother found out we would pay for her trip she was fine. His sister came around soon after and the brother wouldnt give us a yes or no answer.
Let me just tell you guys about his wedding before I go any further. He was married on july 4 2007 in vegas. He told us a month before that this was going to happen. We already had a trip booked to Puerto Rico (booked in feb 07 and they were fully aware of this trip) for my FI's Bday 7/9. Anyways I tried to see what we can do but we were looking at losing about 1500.00 if we cancelled our trip. So my FI spoke to his brother and asked that they change the date to labor day weekend. They wouldnt budge ok so a huge fight breaks out btn the 2 of them and we ended up not going to their wedding. BTW they didnt take his mom but they sure did take her parents.
So now that my wedding is coming up they arent going. I found out sunday. My FI is really hurt by all of this. We didnt go to their wedding because we did not want to but b/c of the $$ we would lose and at one point we were going to just cancel our trip altogether but my FBIL said some really mean things to my FI and FI refused to go. They claim that they have no $$ but yet they are at the casinos every other weekend dropping 500-1000 a night.
So now I am left with a heartbroken FI and I am not sure what to say to him to make it better. I have tried to make excuses up for them but everytime I see how hurts he gets just talking about it, it makes me even more mad.
Posted 28 July 2009 - 09:09 PM
Posted 28 July 2009 - 10:05 PM
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Posted 29 July 2009 - 09:54 AM
Keep your head hope and hopefully all will be ok. Thats what I am hoping for
Posted 01 August 2009 - 04:53 PM
Sorry to hear ab this issue.
To be honest I don't think there's much you can do. Unfortunately your FBIL is being very immature and petty ab the situation. I know it's hard for your FI but I would just be supportive of him. Also I wouldn't make excuses for the brother...
I know thats hard though.
Posted 01 August 2009 - 05:45 PM
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