As another mom (and a behavior specialist), I think it is very hard to give up control, but the day is about you and your fiance. I would not give a lot of attention to the fact she is not going as this is probably for attention. I would simply tell her you want her there and give a few options and responsibilities. You're not going to change your wedding plans, so when that is realized hopefully it will work out! Congratulations!
BEACHES NEGRIL JUNE 26, 2110 (mom won't come=()
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Posted 08 July 2009 - 07:52 PM
Congrats and welcome! My parents and future in laws were the same way. While this is both of our second weddings we do want our parents there. Both of us said we wanted destination weddings! Our decision was to have a wedding on board a ship in port so family and friends could attend and then sail off with whoever wanted to come with us. This may not be ideal for everyone, but I hope it works for us! We will know in Feb 2010.
Posted 08 July 2009 - 09:40 PM
| Originally Posted by jonnyboy |
Thanks everyone for the advice. I think she will come around. Just think it was a last ditch effort to get us to change plans. It's weird being excited and sad at the same time. My FI can't really be excited b/c she knows I'm upset. Tonight we are ordering "save the date" magnets. Thats exciting! Anyone know where i can get good pics of Negril weddings so that i can print them and send them to her? Thanks!
And I wouldn't stress about it too much. As long as she is in good health and can physically make the trip, I have a feeling she'll come around. It seems like almost everyone on this forum has experienced the same problem to some degree - in my case it was FMIL. Keep talking to her about all of the positives and about how this is what you and your FI really want and hopefully she'll start to see things your way.
Heather & Eric ~ May 5th, 2011 ~ Beaches Turks & Caicos
Posted 08 July 2009 - 10:54 PM
Congratulations and Welcome! If you go through the boards you will see many of us have our difficulties with family members not wanting to come. You aren't alone and I hope you can convince your mother to come!
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